Dr. Romie: more than half of married women have a backup man

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Even in Quora there are plenty of replies, but you chose to go with the "they want to show off to their girl friends" explanation.

Where did you get the idea that I’m a MGTOW? I’d like to find a girlfriend; in fact, I’d like to have children with her. I’m simply not so delusional as to believe I’ll have more than a snowball’s chance in hell at my current age and with the amount of s**t I have yet to get together in my life. Besides, I don’t avoid women; I leave them alone because I know that’s almost always, if not always, what they want, and know no acceptable way to interact with them any more than strictly forced by external circumstances.

Usually people who go MGTOW and Incel don't really get to choose much, I guess this must be really unconceivable for you. Besides I don't really think they do it primarily for social standing, lol, how can you criticize Boo if you make similar generalizations?
You are basically trying to say they deserve what they get because they want to use woman to get a positive social standing with other men.
Finally let me add that most people who post such generalizations here seem to be active on dating sites and looking for women, so how are they going their own way exactly?

Incel, by definition, is something you do not choose to be: involuntarily celibate. I’m not interested in those forums, let alone terrorism, and have no idea what their members are up to.

Frankly, I don't really care one way or the other why men choose the MGTOW thing. In fact, I'm all for it if they want to drop out of dating, stomp their feet, sulk and take their ball and go the hell home. They're doing everyone a favor by keeping their toxicity away.

... and completely ignored the women who stated they did not care one way or the other if they had a fancy wedding.

I think there is a reason why you can talk about gender and behavior on Quora but not here. Quora members (of both genders) are mostly NTs, and so certainly know that the typical biases (like women seeking men with status and wanting fancy weddings, men only thinking about sex) are according to their own biases, and so they acknowledge that it exists and is true. When these issues come up on WP, many men and women don't have these biases, and so they attack people for pointing out that this actually is so in the NT population. Men that point this out likely do it because they've observed it (in NT women), but then get attacked for sexism (which it is not).

So, it would be far better if the women here stopped denying that these biases are real, and instead point out they are not like that themselves.

The thing is, it has been pointed out on this forum, numerous times, that NOT ALL women like the same things. We are not all the same. That's been said over and over and over again. And it is repeatedly shot back down that stating you're an individual is exactly the same thing as having a hive mind.

Seriously, sometimes I think it's better that some people stay single. It's sad but if they can't move past their own internal blocks, maybe it's the best thing for everyone until they can get some help and resolve their issues.

But claiming all women are materialistic and want super expensive weddings is okay?

Which was something I never said, I literally said many/most in every instance.

But of course, you as usual, even if we are talking about one woman you see 'all' and feel offended because you want to be offended - that's the difference between you and the Quora members.

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I’m struggling with the constant negativity towards women on this site.

I’ve had horrible experiences with men, but I don’t start threads making generalizations about the entire sex. Maybe I should start just to even things out...

^^^And I would encourage you to do that! If you are struggling with a repetitive pattern over and over again, then that means it may be an issue with the herd mentality you may find in the average nt men. And no, the problem is not always you as the 'the common denominator' - sometimes the the common denominator is really sometimes a group copycat thinking thing. Let's say for example you have a major physical flaw or some health condition you cannot fix , and you can feel that most men rejecting you because of it, would that necessarily mean the blame is on you? Or it is just a fact the vast majority of people prefer healthy people?

If herd mentality doesn't exist among humans, then Asperger Syndrome itself wouldn't have existed as a diagnosable disorder at all because it would be seen as just another personality variant.

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Not really.

If you say "women," or "the majority of women," or "the average woman," than you are talking about most women. It's basic English.

My problem is not with being rejected but with badly abusive situations.

Maybe I'm rambling here, and no one will listen, which is fine, but I have to throw my hat in the ring. There are two separate dynamics going on. Male-Female, as well as Aspie-Neurotypical. While no two people are the same, there are generalities which may be more applicable to one sex, and, likewise, generalities that may be more applicable to one neurotype, so we're broadly dealing with four categories: NT male, NT female, AS male, AS female.

This is important. Since most people are NT, generalizations about womenkind are usually about NT women. I think the Aspie women on this board should step back for a moment, not give in to their feminine emotion (yes, there's a gender stereotype), and realize much of the criticism is aimed more at the NT world than WOMEN collectively.

Generally speaking: NTs are much more concerned with status display and social functions than Aspies. A generality, yes, but generally accurate. Since weddings/planning weddings/getting married is (generally) more of a female preoccupation, it would seem logical that weddings as both an event and a social display probably hold the most meaning for FEMALE NTs, and the least for MALE Aspies.

Before getting hung up on the battle of the sexes, don't forget the cross-section that is neurotype. That's a biggie here. Just gotta say that. And while that message is for everyone, generally speaking, it's mainly directed at the female Aspies getting a little snippy. Theory of Mind problems, perhaps? The ultimate criticism is with the NT world. That's how it looks to me, anyway, just as an observer.

Thank you for letting me say my piece, everyone. And I come in peace. Oh, and to the lady I quoted: I'd wager most (if not all) of the MEN you've had problems with were neurotypical. Most of the women (and men) I've had problems with are also neurotypical. That is a factor in all of this. Let's not forget that. There's a reason it feels like people like us are on the wrong planet here.

Many of them are idiots but some are just jaded.

Luhluhluh, the one who discussed here the most and basically the only female in the discussion beside a moderator, is NT.

While I understand that very frequent threads like this in this forum are annoying for you, I don't agree about the fact that, in general, talking about common behaviours of a certain group of people is incorrect unless they are shared by the entirety of them.