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The_Face_of_Boo
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18 Oct 2018, 12:00 am

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I quite like women who are like me . I’d rather help them and make them feel better then feel disinterested in them.
Wish there was a lady who instead of seeing me as worthless would want to help me and make me happy and I’d do the same for her.


Hypergamy doesn’t work in this way.



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18 Oct 2018, 12:08 am

sly279 wrote:
I quite like women who are like me . I’d rather help them and make them feel better then feel disinterested in them.
Wish there was a lady who instead of seeing me as worthless would want to help me and make me happy and I’d do the same for her.
Same here. Luckily my girlfriend didn't see me as worthless. She sees herself as worthless thou but I NEVER see her that way. I don't see myself as worthless but I know that others/society see me that way.


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18 Oct 2018, 8:39 am

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Hey citymale, you say you have learned aggressive behaviour. I hear you. My family have a tendency towards communicating with sarcasm, amongst other darker things.

I realised that there was a bad dynamic in my family, so I've been reading up on psychology and communication for years, gleaning what I can to improve my attitude and learning how to react to my family in a way that will grease the wheels.

It can be done. We still have ups and downs, but things are a lot better.


I think I am just not a good person to be with as a friend, companion or family member as a result of not understanding, not being naturally smart in that way and having bad habits and behaviors.


I genuinely don't believe there is such a thing as a bad person. We all have good qualities and we can all work on parts of our personality that we don't like. I will always be a bit slow on the uptake when it comes to understanding what other people are going on about. I just don't pick things up quickly, but I've found other ways of getting along with people.

I really am a lot less sarcastic than I used to be. It's really tempting to be sarcastic sometimes, but I have to bite my tongue because I've learned that it just doesn't help to give in to sarastic sniped in certain situations.


Bad as in a bad driver - someone who sucks at driving as opppsed to someone who intentionally drives badly. Or a bad painting. Or a bad meal which lacks ingredients and execution.


Good question. I mean bad as in "of no worth", like bad fruit. No one has no worth.



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18 Oct 2018, 9:01 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
sly279 wrote:
I quite like women who are like me . I’d rather help them and make them feel better then feel disinterested in them.
Wish there was a lady who instead of seeing me as worthless would want to help me and make me happy and I’d do the same for her.


Hypergamy doesn’t work in this way.


Hypergamy is an interesting word so I looked it up.

Hypergamy is a term used in social science for the act or practice of a person marrying a spouse of higher caste or social status than themselves. The antonym "hypogamy" refers to the inverse: marrying a person of lower social class or status.

I am not sure hypergamy works for an Aspie male but hypogamy definitely does. Consider the story of Cinderella. Now put yourself in the shoes of Prince Charming. Factor in the average wage in different countries and the rate of monetary exchange. So even an average wage earner in America is a very wealthy person in many countries. Cinderella is trapped for the rest of her life performing menial labor and is unappreciated. She wished to be free and explore the world. Only remember if you become Prince Charming, you must always be Prince Charming. Be the epitome of that dream.


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19 Oct 2018, 8:41 pm

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The Japanese mass produced cars yet you don’t need a car in Japan.
They didn’t mass produce cars until after ww2
That's like two thirds of the time since the Model T Ford. came out. It's not like the WWII ended recently.
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You’re missing the point henery ford wanted to make it so every single last American owned a car. That is the cultural mindset if Americans, not Australians, it Europeans not Japanese’s.
Then don't date an American. There's about 15 million foreign women in America. Pick one. Also you could find a girl who already owns a car and get her to drive you around. That's what I did.
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Most middle class family’s have 2-6 cars, the parents each have one and each kid over 16 has one. I’m willing to bet you don’t see that in Europe except for the wealthy.
Reminds me of my annoying uncle and his annoying family. They're obsessed with cars.
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My goals are to just keep living and play games I want to.
Nothing wrong with that. Gaming is a fun and cost-effective hobby.


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