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29 Oct 2018, 10:56 am

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He needs to locate an intelligent woman.
A 30-ish intelligent woman in the Texas Bible-Belt?

If any are left at that age, they've probably earned university degrees and/or married into money.

Another reason to move away from there


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29 Oct 2018, 10:58 am

magz wrote:
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He needs to locate an intelligent woman.
A 30-ish intelligent woman in the Texas Bible-Belt? If any are left at that age, they've probably earned university degrees and/or married into money.
Another reason to move away from there
Good point ... maybe somewhere in Florida ... ?



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29 Oct 2018, 11:00 am

magz wrote:
Fnord wrote:
ShyGirl7 wrote:
He needs to locate an intelligent woman.
A 30-ish intelligent woman in the Texas Bible-Belt?

If any are left at that age, they've probably earned university degrees and/or married into money.

Another reason to move away from there

Why does he need someone “intelligent” ? That seems shallow. Find someone who he finds attractive for whatever reasons (personality, attitude, looks, passion, perspective, and even intelligence if she happens to have it) but saying someone needs to date based on iq is very shallow in my opinion. There are plenty of great creative, beautiful and loving women out there who might not score the highest on an iq test.


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29 Oct 2018, 11:02 am

Fnord wrote:
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He needs to locate an intelligent woman.
A 30-ish intelligent woman in the Texas Bible-Belt?

If any are left at that age, they've probably earned university degrees and/or married into money.


Precisely. :wink:

Intelligent women are attracted (to the few) intelligent men (that exist).



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29 Oct 2018, 11:04 am

alex wrote:
magz wrote:
Fnord wrote:
ShyGirl7 wrote:
He needs to locate an intelligent woman.
A 30-ish intelligent woman in the Texas Bible-Belt?

If any are left at that age, they've probably earned university degrees and/or married into money.

Another reason to move away from there

Why does he need someone “intelligent” ? That seems shallow. Find someone who he finds attractive for whatever reasons (personality, attitude, looks, passion, perspective, and even intelligence if she happens to have it) but saying someone needs to date based on iq is very shallow in my opinion. There are plenty of great creative, beautiful and loving women out there who might not score the highest on an iq test.


The point is that the low-IQ ones are not attracted to him (because they're low-IQ).

We've already identified that problem. :wink:



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29 Oct 2018, 11:08 am

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We've already identified the problem.
Yes, we did ... long before you ever got here.



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29 Oct 2018, 11:09 am

ShyGirl7 wrote:
Fnord wrote:
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He needs to locate an intelligent woman.
A 30-ish intelligent woman in the Texas Bible-Belt?

If any are left at that age, they've probably earned university degrees and/or married into money.


Precisely. :wink:

Intelligent women are attracted (to the few) intelligent men (that exist).

Again, I think that’s very shallow and simply not true. I know plenty of highly intelligent women who have dated guys who aren’t the brightest.

My IQ is in the 99th percentile which means only about 1% of the people out there are smarter than me. While I’ve dated very smart women (mathematicians, etc) I’ve also dated women who were talented or attractive in other ways (creative or musical people or just really attractive women with great personalities). I’m not saying this to brag, just pointing out that the elitism is silly and not very evolved.


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29 Oct 2018, 11:14 am

alex wrote:
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Fnord wrote:
ShyGirl7 wrote:
He needs to locate an intelligent woman.
A 30-ish intelligent woman in the Texas Bible-Belt?

If any are left at that age, they've probably earned university degrees and/or married into money.


Precisely. :wink:

Intelligent women are attracted (to the few) intelligent men (that exist).

Again, I think that’s very shallow and simply not true. I know plenty of highly intelligent women who have dated guys who aren’t the brightest.

My IQ is in the 99th percentile which means only about 1% of the people out there are smarter than me. While I’ve dated very smart women (mathematicians, etc) I’ve also dated women who were talented or attractive in other ways (creative or musical people or just really attractive women with great personalities). I’m not saying this to brag, just pointing out that the elitism is silly and not very evolved.


If the men these women dated were abusive in any way, then they aren't smart women.



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29 Oct 2018, 11:16 am

They might have been smart. But they were possibly naive.



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29 Oct 2018, 11:18 am

I don’t agree with the “victim mentality” thing at all.

You can’t live successfully while thinking yourself totally a victim.



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29 Oct 2018, 11:20 am

ShyGirl, what makes you think that women where I live are smarter than American women?

It’s not true if we check iq ranking by country.



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29 Oct 2018, 11:21 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
I don’t agree with the “victim mentality” thing at all. You can’t live successfully while thinking yourself totally a victim.
Actually, it's the one point of hers that I totally agree with.



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29 Oct 2018, 11:43 am

I have no interest in speaking to alex.

kraftiekortie wrote:
They might have been smart. But they were possibly naive.


Bible Belt brainwashing is sick this way. It makes people think if you aren't "Christian" (To them, only Protestant and Evangelical faiths are "Christian". Everything else is devil worship.), you are a "bad" person.



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29 Oct 2018, 12:39 pm

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I have no interest in speaking to alex.


While this might be factually correct it doesn't need to be said , just ignore him. If you use this type of language to peoples faces IRL it will cause you lots of issues.


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29 Oct 2018, 1:42 pm

If a day passes and I still don't have a girlfriend, what am I supposed to feel? I fear that my life reflects the days I go through and I am at the afternoon phase of my life. I don't want my fate to be like at night where I go to bed alone.



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29 Oct 2018, 4:18 pm

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Something I get told a lot is that I need to exercise more but when I see guys who are fat with girlfriends, it confuses me. Why aren't they slimming down and building muscle?

Perhaps they are not aspies. Personally I think that it's much easier to lose weight than acquire NT social skills. But it's up to you to decide what you should improve. Anyone can improve something about themselves.


I exercised like crazy but my body wouldn't respond to my efforts. I still have man boobs, a chubby belly unless I suck it in, butt fat, a double chin, bony shoulders, and skinny forearms. Some think I am a "weakling" or gay because I have a weak handshake no thanks to my small hands in comparison to most guys.

It’s physiologically impossible for your body not to respond to working out. How many months of following strict daily regimen did you try?


I think it is possible. I did work-out as younger, but it never showed up in physiology. I've always been slim and building muscles simply don't work.