26 Dec 2019, 10:50 pm
26 Dec 2019, 10:56 pm
26 Dec 2019, 11:17 pm
26 Dec 2019, 11:40 pm
Frankly it's impressive to keep any job that long given this condition of ours. I've been an intern for 17 months & that's a stretch for me. If I get a permanent job I seriously need more flexibility about my hours & vacations. Stable work goes a lot farther these days than it used to.
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26 Dec 2019, 11:49 pm
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27 Dec 2019, 12:07 am
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27 Dec 2019, 12:16 am
cyberdad wrote:
Marknis wrote:
Most of the people I work with directly are bitter middle aged women who are extremely petty and will browbeat me over the most trivial things. They are always ready to reprimand and lecture me while showing double standards and favoritism for the people they like. It’s a sickening cycle that I’ve put up with more than I have should.
Always somebody else's fault huh Marknis
Middle aged women develop a rather thick skin in order to go through the glass ceilings they have to break through and so often come across more hard nosed and authoritarian than their male counterparts. Ask somebody who has worked with middle aged women for 30+ years (hint)....
For every step a male staff member progresses a female staff member invariably will have to make three or four strides. Stop playing the victim.
For what it's worth, it's likely he's not working with the women you describe, instead the one's who wouldn't handle that environment and went somewhere far more stereotypically female-majority and now Marknis is the interloper who's easy to exclude. It's not as though power structures never behave differently when their dynamics switch or anything.
Among things, women fitting the personality type he describes certainly exist, that's basically the majority of my mom's peers in her workplace. They're just as bad for bullying as middle-school kids are.
I wouldn't doubt that he might be experiencing workplace bullying and it's really unfair to start from the presumption that he's at fault. I can't claim I've ever really seen Markis play the antagonist in interactions, so while he does possess some traits that might attract bullying or make others unsympathetic, I doubt he's done something to deserve to be bullied.
27 Dec 2019, 12:19 am
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27 Dec 2019, 12:25 am
Kiprobalhato wrote:
don't put vagene on a pedestal, people aren't comfortable being obsessed over
But that's the easiest way to get a good look.
27 Dec 2019, 12:34 am
cyberdad wrote:
Marknis wrote:
Most of the people I work with directly are bitter middle aged women who are extremely petty and will browbeat me over the most trivial things. They are always ready to reprimand and lecture me while showing double standards and favoritism for the people they like. It’s a sickening cycle that I’ve put up with more than I have should.
Always somebody else's fault huh Marknis
Middle aged women develop a rather thick skin in order to go through the glass ceilings they have to break through and so often come across more hard nosed and authoritarian than their male counterparts. Ask somebody who has worked with middle aged women for 30+ years (hint)....
For every step a male staff member progresses a female staff member invariably will have to make three or four strides. Stop playing the victim.
Oh, look, more stupid assumptions and blind statements from cyberdad.
I didn’t want the job I got. It was forced onto me when I was almost done with high school and it’s been the only one I’ve had in my life. The women I work with think men are supposed to suppress their emotions and be iron pumping alpha males due to Bible Belt cultural expectations. The library director (who is female, by the way) is also pro-Trump and is indifferent to the struggles of those on the autism spectrum. I have never been offered a promotion to another position because I don’t behave like men in the culture I live in are expected to but I don’t want one anyway because I can’t stand most of the people I work with and wish I could go elsewhere. Shut the f**k up with your brain dead assumptions about my life and stop replying to my posts if you hate them as much as you say you do. I know my life better than you do so quit running your mouth about me.
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27 Dec 2019, 12:42 am
funeralxempire wrote:
For what it's worth, it's likely he's not working with the women you describe, instead the one's who wouldn't handle that environment and went somewhere far more stereotypically female-majority and now Marknis is the interloper who's easy to exclude. It's not as though power structures never behave differently when their dynamics switch or anything.
Among things, women fitting the personality type he describes certainly exist, that's basically the majority of my mom's peers in her workplace. They're just as bad for bullying as middle-school kids are.
I wouldn't doubt that he might be experiencing workplace bullying and it's really unfair to start from the presumption that he's at fault. I can't claim I've ever really seen Markis play the antagonist in interactions, so while he does possess some traits that might attract bullying or make others unsympathetic, I doubt he's done something to deserve to be bullied.
Yes, cyberdad is making stupid assumptions about me like he always does. I don’t work in a male dominated environment since libraries are usually thought of as “feminine jobs”. The director is a woman who is also pro-Trump and religious homeschool moms also use the place as a zone to indoctrinate their kids with Creationism. A religious group also made us remove a pro-LGBT book display and we get multiple copies of the latest books from Bill O’Reilly, Ann Coulter, Dinesh D’Souza, and Ted Nugent. I also have male patrons tell me things like the women I work with “look better” than I do.
The area of the Bible Belt I live in is very hostile to aspies.
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27 Dec 2019, 1:13 am
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27 Dec 2019, 3:37 am
funeralxempire wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Marknis wrote:
Most of the people I work with directly are bitter middle aged women who are extremely petty and will browbeat me over the most trivial things. They are always ready to reprimand and lecture me while showing double standards and favoritism for the people they like. It’s a sickening cycle that I’ve put up with more than I have should.
Always somebody else's fault huh Marknis
Middle aged women develop a rather thick skin in order to go through the glass ceilings they have to break through and so often come across more hard nosed and authoritarian than their male counterparts. Ask somebody who has worked with middle aged women for 30+ years (hint)....
For every step a male staff member progresses a female staff member invariably will have to make three or four strides. Stop playing the victim.
For what it's worth, it's likely he's not working with the women you describe, instead the one's who wouldn't handle that environment and went somewhere far more stereotypically female-majority and now Marknis is the interloper who's easy to exclude. It's not as though power structures never behave differently when their dynamics switch or anything.
Among things, women fitting the personality type he describes certainly exist, that's basically the majority of my mom's peers in her workplace. They're just as bad for bullying as middle-school kids are.
I wouldn't doubt that he might be experiencing workplace bullying and it's really unfair to start from the presumption that he's at fault. I can't claim I've ever really seen Markis play the antagonist in interactions, so while he does possess some traits that might attract bullying or make others unsympathetic, I doubt he's done something to deserve to be bullied.
There's hundreds of pages of threads dedicated to helping this self-declared victim. If you read all of them (I unfortunately have) you will realise he thinks the world revolves around him.
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