Very few women want Aspie men

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Well, if somebody has a 1/1000 chance on Tinder, that means they should immediately dump that site. That's simple logic.

Not even the least attractive guys have that low chance IRL.

And, then, of course, there is a lot more to love and relationships than asking out and getting dates. It's just one popular method from the NT world but by no means the only one available.

In fact, even if only two people like a particular method, they can still use it successfully with each other.

^^ What's considered attractive vs not attractive is way more hive thinking than what most people would like to admit.

Most people find the thought of being a part of hive-mind offensive, but yes they are largely part of it despite the typical denial, we see it in everything, in politics, sports, tv shows, fashion...etc and dating isn't an isolated case.

I pulled the 1/1000 statistic out of my arse. I don't know what the real match rate was, but I'm pretty sure it was 1/500 or less.

I'm not going to challenge the notion that the majority of women on tinder would find Alex more attractive than me, but there might be other variables at play here that widen the gap even further than where it might otherwise be.

My pictures and bio were sub-par and I didn't boost my profile. I didn't put all that much effort into my profile to be honest. Sometimes I didn't even have a bio.

On the other hand, I'm imagining that Alex's pictures and bio are more interesting and enticing, and he did boost his profile.

I was also swiping right on everyone or almost everyone because I was getting so few matches to begin with that it wasn't worth filtering through potential matches, so my account very well might have been flagged as a bot or something, and that might have resulted in my account being hidden. I'd like to think that's part of the reason my match count was so low.

Since the last time I used Tinder, I've lost 30kg+. I wonder if my experience on Tinder would be just as bad if I tried using it now, but this time made a real effort with my photos and bio.

Beverly Hills is a wealthy suburb?
Over here in Australia, it is next to "Roselands".

Ya think?

Well they could hardly be any worse, but there's a chance they wouldn't be any better either

I read somewhere that Tinder does flag those who swipe right on everyone or put some sort of score on you, but here's the thing: There's a reason why one would swipe right on everything ; and that's because this one wasn't getting matches to begin with, if that one is getting matches then he would be much less likely to swipe right on everyone.

If you are going to do it, you really should put in the effort.

I think it also helps to delete your profile periodically, take a break (at your discretion), and then create a new profile (rather than "reactivating" the old one).

Most sites seem to boost new profiles by default (so in theory, you receive the most profile views the first week or so that you signed up).

This is assuming that Tinder is free to use for both men and women. If you have to pay an annual fee or whatever, then obviously deleting and recreating accounts is not going to be cost effective

I had a quick read. "Tinder" is geared towards sex, rather than relationships.

What makes it so tho? I keep seeing profiles saying they want relationship and not just sex.

That is the "stepping stone" to get you where you want to go.

Yeah, after the clobbering my self-esteem experienced last time, I wouldn't try tinder again unless I really felt like I was putting my best foot forward with my profile. Even then, I'd keep expectations low and probably not be very patient with it if I was getting no matches.

Just a few weeks ago, I was in a discussion on FB group. All the women who participated in this discussion expressed their frustration with men who couldn't hold interesting conversations, lacked self-esteem, or were awkward in general.

I had a long term girlfriend. She might have even been on the spectrum herself, given that she had a brother in her family that was on the spectrum. And on top of that she was rather introverted. She was nowhere near as bad as me when it came to interacting with people and she always had an issue with me not being social enough. At the end of the relationship (she broke up) she began to be more and more irritated with that. It's possible that the biological clock of her attraction to me had just run out over the years and so just couldn't tolerate that side of me.
You often have people don't mind "weaknesses" in their partners in the beginning but they start to be annoyed by them once the initial attraction has faded out a bit.
So it's definitely possible to attract other women even if you have a weirder side on you but on the longterm it might not work out. What's even the bigger problem for aspies, they have less social contacts, so they have less opportunities to meet potential partners.

I can't argue with that. No point telling folk about sitting next to a landline waiting for it to ring