My problem with relationships and age

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Seems you're putting the cart before the horse here.

You're not in a position where you've gone on some dates with a younger woman and have to decide whether or not to continue forming a relationship.

You've stated that your financial & physical fitness levels aren't exactly where you want them to be in order to feel attractive to potential partners & live the life you want. IMO, focus on improving both of those things, and in time, dates and possible relationships will come.

I've been trying to, and failing utterly over and over again, for the past 15 years. I never will be fit for a relationship.

Totally get where you’re coming from, Dorkseid. I wouldn’t feel comfortable either, dating someone much younger than me. I could definitely handle someone being mayble 5 years younger, but prefer someone as close as possible to my age or older.

I respect wholly the fact that it’s an individual thing the older someone gets. I had a 26 year old wanting to date me when I was 16 and my Dad was about to throw him down the stairs LOL! I wasn’t allowed to date till I was 16, but have to admit, I dated secretly at 14(though that was totally innocent).

Wish you well in finding someone.

Americans expect them to move out of their country. No one wants to move away from home, own possessions and family, even if home is Africa. They will only have one man and his family, it's his so they will be on his side, and we all know how stable and sweet sometimes relationships are. What happens if he gets mad and locks her outside of his house? Trust me, such a thing is far from easy and favorable.

I have no issue with couples settling in war zones. No option is any fairer than the other, especially when it comes to love. People can love one another in war zones and want so much to be together they'll risk their life in various ways rather than be apart. If a man really wants a woman he could be able to leave everything behind like those third world country women do including his first world country benefits.

There's no riskless option, or option in which one profits exclusively of something. What if they don't care about America? Do you think your country is so perfect? Even Africa has benefits in comparison to it.

People can live in war zones regardless of whether they love, sometimes that's life and what they know.

How are women in 3rd world countries and men in 1st world countries supposed to meet? It's one of them has to go to the other's country. Or they go to another country but they both do equal sacrifice [more or less since hes already used to traveling], it's more fair that way but might be harder to make a living there and start for them, both will struggle with language and not knowing anything. And women from 3rd world countries go to other countries too, not only America, including other 3rd world countries to settle down with their significant others.

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The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.


That said, have you spent 15 years trying to find a relationship Or have you spent 15 years working on making yourself more attractive in order to attract a partner?

If the former, time to shift gears to the latter.

Looking sexy and being sexy are two different concepts. Please explain how these two differ.

When people drool over your worst pictures and adore your weirdest quirks you will realize there is much more to attraction than meets the eye. And much more to how people connect for relationships than attraction.

Par example Stepanka and her jars of farts she made fortunes out of.



Men get through a ton of rejection and they learn from it. It's better for them to keep going and getting exposed and not take it personally if it's not going anywhere. Many people will be put off by many others, sometimes a mistake or misunderstanding can ruin a good thing, but life goes on.

Unrelated to this, like I previously shown in one article, specialists say that it's useless to people for meeting the right person to move in hopes of dating. Things work in similar ways everywhere and the same things are necessary for it to work out. What is he gonna do when hes unsuccessful after spending all his savings to move around different countries? Still feel depressed and even more hopeless. The time to act and work on his mind, communication, mood and continue dating is now. You don't have to feel or be ready, you don't even know what you will have to deal with or how it'll work out. And that's okay as long as you don't give up and don't think much of failing. Failing is part of life and losers are all of us, but.

Stepankas farts are at least safer to sniff than drinking Belle Delphine's bathwater

In most cases (probably 99% of the time) the 3rd world babes come to us first worlders.

But for Dorkseid the issue is money, perhaps you would like to start a gofundme page for Dorkseid to finance trips to Columbia or Venezuela?

But many people still do it for whatever reason. And this isn't my assumption or "American expectation"; the numbers clearly show significant migration regularly occurring from 3rd World countries to Western countries like the US and Canada, while relatively very little occurs in the opposite direction. I know it does happen, since I myself moved from the US to Libya when I was a child. But it happens much less.



"laughs uncontrollably for ten minutes straight"

Sorry. I jus...

"keep laughing until he falls down and starts ROTFLing for another four minutes"

Sorry about that.

Seriously? I f**king hate this country and have been looking for an opportunity to escape for years.



I've been trying to establish some kind of career and financial stability, lose weight and establish a healthy lifestyle, and improve my mental health.

But life keeps blowing up in my face and destroying any little progress I make.

That's life. Keep working at it.

I have financial stability and a fantastic job, paid for car and motorcycle, money in the bank, free time.. but I've also gotten weak and soft since I've been lazy, And life just handed me a 14 year old boy to raise - sooo, now I've got to get physical and rebuild the strength I had a few years ago as well as shift gears into God father mode and see that my cousin's kid grows up to turn out okay.

Because that's life and I have to keep working at it.

Next girl's gotta come up with the luxurious Vaginal Cyst water, Herps added as a bonus included in price. It's gonna leave a lasting itching aand burning feeling that you won't even be able to eat for weeks and contribute to weightloss, all the while getting fancy red spots all over the tongue. Added cosmeticity.

You're exagerrating, it's not like you havent ever swallowed public pool or sea water, with many more people pickled in them, armpit hair included. Vaginal cysts though, are a rarity. The chances of someone having it and one popping at the same time are very very slim.

Vaginal cyst water? well, you learn something new every day,

I think we can consider this thread officially derailed.

Women in their 30's and 40's have a lot to offer. Don't block yourself from potential delights just because they're not barely past their teens.

Some of them are quite "young" when it comes to bedroom activities. And many of them are willing to teach inexperienced men "the ropes." It's like sort of a challenge to them.

I doubt 3rd world country gorgeous virgin babes care about American incels randomly, to the extent to visit their majesties, they have much more important things on on their mind, like how to disable the next bomb. Truth is though, life sucks, but it sucks less when you have somebody, if that somebody is good enough.

"I think we can consider this thread officially derailed." - but its not fun to keep being depressed about losing. Live a little. You gotta get out of the house and make a move again. The internet and negativity you listen to is sucking up all your life and mind

Women like that are out of my league.

Maybe. But I don't have anything to contribute to vaginal cyst water.