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Yesterday, 2:21 pm

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All I have to do is shut my mouth when I get drunk


And if you can't do that, don't get drunk in the first place.


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Yesterday, 2:25 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
All I have to do is shut my mouth when I get drunk


And if you can't do that, don't get drunk in the first place.



Do you think apologising by text would help or make things worse?



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Yesterday, 2:28 pm

Jamesy wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
All I have to do is shut my mouth when I get drunk


And if you can't do that, don't get drunk in the first place.



All I need to do is just drink my beer slower :roll:


Then actually do it, rather than saying you will do it, not doing it and blaming it on anxiety or whatever excuse comes to mind next time we inevitably have this discussion.

Please prove me wrong about the inevitability of having this discussion again, I'd love to be wrong about that and see you doing better instead of repeating the same mistakes again and again.


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Yesterday, 2:31 pm

Jamesy wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
All I have to do is shut my mouth when I get drunk


And if you can't do that, don't get drunk in the first place.



Do you think apologising by text would help or make things worse?


I'm not certain, to be honest.

Another angle would be to say you're going to try to drink less because you worry about how you behave and ask them to remind you of this when you're together and out. This amounts to recognizing there's a problem and offering a solution while not explicitly going into detail about what behaviours you're seeking to change.


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Yesterday, 4:44 pm

I think apologizing would make things worse. Most normal people have short memories and will forget stuff if not reminded.