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12 Oct 2007, 6:10 am

LePetitPrince wrote:
So if I just said the reality that i am witnessing around me then I am misogynist?


Your reality is tainted by your misogyny.
Sorry, but this is how I see it.



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12 Oct 2007, 6:22 am

whatever



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12 Oct 2007, 6:26 am

Indeed. You need to see the
wonder of women, to get away
from it.

Doesn't really matter if you
can get one or not. Hell, I'm
as alone as anyone - but I ain't
given up on such beautiful creatures.

If you want to - turn to men.

That simple.



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12 Oct 2007, 6:38 am

calandale wrote:
Indeed. You need to see the
wonder of women, to get away
from it.

Doesn't really matter if you
can get one or not. Hell, I'm
as alone as anyone - but I ain't
given up on such beautiful creatures.

If you want to - turn to men.

That simple.


are you available? :lol:

jk



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12 Oct 2007, 7:20 am

Anythin' for you, darlin'



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12 Oct 2007, 9:27 am

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I don't usually talk about men vs women issues with a girl who's presenting herself before me , not because i am trying to hide something but it won't be a smart move


In other words, you're hiding it.

Smart move for you. Shame for the girl.



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12 Oct 2007, 11:34 am

juliekitty wrote:
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I don't usually talk about men vs women issues with a girl who's presenting herself before me , not because i am trying to hide something but it won't be a smart move


In other words, you're hiding it.



According to your many other posts , you also have a lot of issues with men ...i don't think you talk about them to a man that you like and you might date. Besides , quote the whole phrase next time.

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Smart move for you. Shame for the girl.


thank you ;)



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12 Oct 2007, 12:13 pm

May I suggest picking up "Zorba the Greek" by Nikos Kazantzakis? The author has quite a lot of insights about women.



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12 Oct 2007, 1:03 pm

Sedaka wrote:
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hugs

i think that is what ive been missing most... i nice strong ALMOST crushing hug from a guy you trust... very comforting and assuring.


Never understood this.
Something my wife always wanted.
I like a gentle touch, much more.


i'd often agree

but hard times call for hard hugs


I agree with this. (Sedaka)


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12 Oct 2007, 1:12 pm

calandale wrote:
LePetitPrince wrote:
So if I just said the reality that i am witnessing around me then I am misogynist?


Your reality is tainted by your misogyny.
Sorry, but this is how I see it.


Which is tainted by... ?


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12 Oct 2007, 1:45 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:
NeantHumain wrote:
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Here the list:

-pay for a good car so you can pick her up
-pay for dinners
-pay for flowers
-pay for gifts
-pay for a diamond ring
-pay for a house
-pay for the babies
-a kiss

You're a guy, yet you feel compelled to inject more of your preconceptions before anyone else has gotten a word in (note the original poster was asking the women here). You're so damned focused on money and material things. It's rather unpleasant to see your blather (at least save it until after others have had a turn to speak).


Thanks for your advice :-D



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But address my point, which was that Cal is saying that LPP is a misogynist because he has "bitterness" toward women. Well, assuming that he does have bitterness, that's not enough to be a misogynist -- that just means you're circumstantially upset. It's not wrong to be genuinely upset, obviously.

After doing a reading to LPP's posts, I see that I have to agree with you to some degree, although he was making a generalization with that list and overreacting to it, didn't especifically sound like prejudice against women exactly, mostly it seemed about how society may work were he lives. So I am taking that into consideration, I asume that is true in some cases, but it is not always like that. However he must be careful about not blaming women for this.


ive seen his negative attitude towards women lots of times.... over a long period of time.

i'd say he's an opportunistict misogynist... meaning that he'd hate on women all day (say on wp) yet should one present herself before him... she'd be hearing very different ideas from him.


So if I just said the reality that i am witnessing around me then I am misogynist? it's the reality here and i's the reality Guatemala as gwenevyn said it before here . Besides, and what's so wrong if women prefer successful men ? it's the right choice for a long-term healthy marriage life , don't you think? One of the top reasons of divorces is money , that says something ,no?


And no , I don't usually talk about men vs women issues with a girl who's presenting herself before me , not because i am trying to hide something but it won't be a smart move to pick a such kind of sensitive subjects (and this girl may misinterpret it like you ) during a first encounter :D , would you ?


im not talking about the one topic on it here... you seem to have a negative attitude torwards woman ovr many things... it could be considered misogynistic...

but like i said, i bet if you actually found someone, you wouldnt be spouting all these doom and gloom points of view... i think it's more of a coping mechanism than anything.


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12 Oct 2007, 1:50 pm

Ragtime wrote:
Sedaka wrote:
calandale wrote:
Sedaka wrote:
hugs

i think that is what ive been missing most... i nice strong ALMOST crushing hug from a guy you trust... very comforting and assuring.


Never understood this.
Something my wife always wanted.
I like a gentle touch, much more.


i'd often agree

but hard times call for hard hugs


I agree with this. (Sedaka)


yeah there's just something.... when you're really upset and someone tries to give you a hug... and they do that light kind where they just hover and don't really squeeze you, but lay their arms on you slightly, like they don't really want to touch you.... that makes my skin crawl and i buck like a wild animal to get em off of me... when im already upset.


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12 Oct 2007, 4:29 pm

Sedaka wrote:
greenblue wrote:
Ragtime wrote:
But address my point, which was that Cal is saying that LPP is a misogynist because he has "bitterness" toward women. Well, assuming that he does have bitterness, that's not enough to be a misogynist -- that just means you're circumstantially upset. It's not wrong to be genuinely upset, obviously.

After doing a reading to LPP's posts, I see that I have to agree with you to some degree, although he was making a generalization with that list and overreacting to it, didn't especifically sound like prejudice against women exactly, mostly it seemed about how society may work were he lives. So I am taking that into consideration, I asume that is true in some cases, but it is not always like that. However he must be careful about not blaming women for this.


ive seen his negative attitude towards women lots of times.... over a long period of time.

i'd say he's an opportunistict misogynist... meaning that he'd hate on women all day (say on wp) yet should one present herself before him... she'd be hearing very different ideas from him.

oh I see, I realise now, all I read from him was just on this thread, that I can remember, therefore I can't say much about this without taking previous posts of his on this regard into consideration.


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12 Oct 2007, 4:45 pm

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So if I just said the reality that i am witnessing around me then I am misogynist?

Well, the attitude points towards to it actually, you recently said that it is an "instinct" that women have. That pretty much sounds like prejudice. Yes, that happens sometimes in some societies or groups or families, such groups put women in an inferior level than men, don't you see? if few women look for wealthy men in a society, that is because of the patriarcal system belief that favors men in this sense, and they have been thought of that mostly because of the dependence they will suppose to have with their future husband.

Rarely this would be the case with independent women who have jobs and/or careers. Not saying a smiliar thing can never happen, it could, but things are not as simple to just take them as a black and white issue.


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12 Oct 2007, 6:14 pm

It's the little things that count! For ex:
Making Dinner
Cleaning the snow off my car
Just letting me vent, w/ out trying to fix my 'problem'


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12 Oct 2007, 8:38 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:
According to your many other posts , you also have a lot of issues with men .


Incorrect. I have issues with misogynists.

Men in general, I quite like. In fact, overall I prefer them to women.

If you can find a post in which I express a distaste for men as an entire class, I will mail a box of chocolates to you in Lebanon.