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For you, Grisha, I think you've been a gentleman and I'm not going to interfere with the manners that your mama gave you. You're out there and dating, and I don't think your interests in women are discriminating enough to hinder you continuing to get dates and make these connections but that you've got respect enough for her and yourself not to cheapen the experience into a fling. Every time you have a first date, even if she declines a second date, you've left the door open and one of these women may rethink a second date and come back. I think it's a matter of time before you happen upon the right woman.
I certainly (think) I understand your point. In my case, it's not so much a question of "manners" but my utter inability to understand what is appropriate and what is not in a particular situation.
It's like trying to play the piano with boxing gloves on - it leads to extreme conservatism on my part for fear I will do something wrong, not exactly conducive to "sweeping a woman off her feet" I'm afraid.
In the rather infrequent romantic success I've had in the past, it has always been a "slow build" - with someone who gets to know me long enough to understand that their first impressions of me were almost entirely wrong and they decide they like the "real" me. Very difficult to get to this point in the "instant gratification" culture of online dating and the limited social opportunities at my age.
I am FAR from admitting defeat though!
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And I still support the advice given to you by someone else that a slight change up in wardrobe to play up your rough edges would do some good... even if you just consider it an exercise in role playing for an evening.
OK, I give in - maybe you could select the best look for me?
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