Why do women send mixed signals?

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Wow, i know women can be confusing sometimes but when we're interested sometimes it can be incredibly easy to know it.

Ok i'm a flirt a really terrible one, alot of time i do it without realising but in some cases it deliberate, i'm talking fiddling with my hair, 'that' shy smile, big bright eyes, the lot!

I'll admit that sometimes its gotten me into situations that i wish it hadn't like explaining to the drunk bloke in a club that i really do not want to go home with him and i really don't like him.

Its not all on purpose guys honest!

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Turns out Heidi was freaked out from what I said to her that night. She waits almost a whole fricking MONTH to tell me this. All the time I'm thinking she is Ok with it. I had to call it off with her. I can't be just a friend with her. We already crossed the line and did some thing thta friends don't do. If we stay friends, I will always think in the back of my mind that there will be a chance that we will hook up. She says it will never happen, she does not like me that way. But I'm good enough to sleep in the same bed with and I'm good enough to massage her back, shoulders, ect. I'm good enough for her to kiss like she means it. Why do women do this f*****g s**t??

this may be a little controversial, but i'm going to ask you to change your perspective...

rather than asking why she "does this s**t", ask yourself why you allow her to.

I used to think that if a guy kissed me, it meant he wanted to be my boyfriend. I also thought, if had sex with a guy, it meant he loved me and we might get married some day.

I have since learned my lesson well and understand, though don't neccessary agree, that close physical contact, and touch with someone of the opposite sex does not equate to love.

KenM - Cut that girl cold. She's bad news, and it has nothing to do with you being an Aspie or her using pot. Put a lot of distance between you and her. She's messing with your head and can end up messing up your life. There are other women.

GroovyDruid - On your surprise re: Aspie women having problems. Ohyeah. NT Guys are "notorious" for being clueless? The entire NT world thinks women aren't supposed to be. Problem is, when we are.... there's no slack cut and, quite frankly, plenty more where we came from.

Saw a "Dummy's Guide to Dating" in a bookstore today. It was aimed at males. It said things like "when a girl says this, she really means this other thing." I was soooo ticked off. Hello? How about people who actually don't play head games? And here's this book telling guys we all do it. Arrrrrgh! I don't think that has to do with Aspie or non-Aspie. I know several women who are non-Aspie and know them well enough that I know they'd have been horrified to see that book in print. Before they burned it.

Well, women have done that as long as I've been talking to them. For years I'd meet girls online, I'd explain my AS and tell them I could not pick up clues (this way I figured I wouldn't be pre-judged, and if she was open minded enough to deal with it, cool, if she wants to be shallow then atleast I know and I can stop talking with her).
Believe me, 90 % of them play mad games, even if they say they don't. But this is what I find intriguing, you can't really explain AS to someone who really doesn't care to understand. Usually I get the impression they right it off as being some minor trashcan diagnosis like ADD (sorry if I offend anyone but ADD and ADHD aren't real disorders, theyr made up by counselors and pharmecuetical companies to sale pills... And over 75% of people who claim to be bi polar aren't, because while bi polar is an actual illness, counselors toss the lable around too loosely for the same reasons they toss the ADD/ADHD lable around. Be wary of phony disorders). If you try to explain this to them they usually won't pay it any mind.
Oh, by the way, I smoke lotsa pot too:)

Nevermind what I just said here, I haven't been thinking too clear as of late.

I had to laugh heavy pot user. That could explain her actions leading you on. My brother's girlfriend harass me humps my back and make sexual comments saying basically she is aroused. It is hard to tell because she is such a drip other than she my brother's and not mine. I found her on myspace and their is playboy bunnies on her stuff. She likes to drive by and make obsene gestures. I am not laugh at you I am laughing at her mixed signals and pot use. It is not your as its her she must have some pschological issues. Bullies do. This one that thought I was 16 and not 23 I guess he bullied to get attention for parents I was right. I love to flaunt my body around and I will be love struct with any female that says something sexual even If I don't like them. That is an attachment issue. My mom is nuts moody only loves me everyother day. Maybe she has this same issue. Those signals are tough for anybody and its inappropiate to lead them on like that. Mine is diffrent I just wear tank tops my be I will get extra service. I could imagine that could be one reason your friends your moms are asses. They are supposed to deal with that before they get married.

I suspect mixed signals are an expression of there distress . I have not read this one though.

Looking back on everything. I should have screwed that little game playing cocktease when I had the chance, then I at least would have gotten something out of it.

You don't sound so depressed now I guess I said the right thing for an aspie. Ithat was funny though. That still did not sound good though, do you understand people act the way they do for a reason and it in your best intrest to take intrest. Did read my bully story. They are going to give you an ax to grind if you respond inappropiately. You want the girl you have to have all the info to respond appropiately . I see why you would think that. I can;t focus on other people if I am not calm. I don't know if this true for other aspies though. There was a big bully at schoo who died. I said that he hit me so I could not say anything nice. This guy had a lot of friends and I had none still do. They took it as I am glad he is dead and they sent people after my brother in mistake. I could not go to my highschool graduation. I as soon as I am calm I become supersensitive to other. She will get whats coming to her. Let it be from someone else. Other women that you might find might find out and get mad too. Drug addiction is tuff enough. Were you being sarchastic? Yeah she can go f**k her self if you know what I mean.

I am laughing with you not at you cause I know how you feal and there are a couple like that in my life like that not what you said but something like that. You got think she is not good enough for you. I would be mad think that she is making fun of me.