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16 Apr 2012, 4:49 pm

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You guys are scaring me. If women want overconfident jerks, screw 'em. I will never be like that.


Where are you seeing this?


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16 Apr 2012, 5:16 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:
UnLoser wrote:
You guys are scaring me. If women want overconfident jerks, screw 'em. I will never be like that.


Where are you seeing this?


I am seeing it everywhere, honestly.



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16 Apr 2012, 5:21 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ValentineWiggin wrote:
UnLoser wrote:
You guys are scaring me. If women want overconfident jerks, screw 'em. I will never be like that.


Where are you seeing this?


I am seeing it everywhere, honestly.


I see this too but rarley it doesn't happen as much as you would think it does.



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16 Apr 2012, 5:21 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ValentineWiggin wrote:
UnLoser wrote:
You guys are scaring me. If women want overconfident jerks, screw 'em. I will never be like that.


Where are you seeing this?


I am seeing it everywhere, honestly.


ditto


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16 Apr 2012, 5:27 pm

It's ok tho, I am not sad, because i am partly a jerk after all.



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16 Apr 2012, 5:35 pm

lol at all the responses to that



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16 Apr 2012, 5:59 pm

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16 Apr 2012, 11:20 pm

MXH wrote:
lol at all the responses to that

Me too. Cause no one actually answered it...

:lol:


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17 Apr 2012, 2:39 am

ValentineWiggin wrote:
MXH wrote:
lol at all the responses to that

Me too. Cause no one actually answered it...

:lol:


I clearly did.

My answer was 'everywhere'.

Now whether you like the answer or not is another story.



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17 Apr 2012, 2:54 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ValentineWiggin wrote:
MXH wrote:
lol at all the responses to that

Me too. Cause no one actually answered it...

:lol:


I clearly did.

My answer was 'everywhere'.

Now whether you like the answer or not is another story.

If you're seeing it everywhere, then the solution to your problem is to start with the proverbial man in the mirror.



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17 Apr 2012, 3:31 am

LKL wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ValentineWiggin wrote:
MXH wrote:
lol at all the responses to that

Me too. Cause no one actually answered it...

:lol:


I clearly did.

My answer was 'everywhere'.

Now whether you like the answer or not is another story.

If you're seeing it everywhere, then the solution to your problem is to start with the proverbial man in the mirror.


You like me already, don't you? :8



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18 Apr 2012, 1:36 am

Elemental seems to have left (<-a very nice person, but not a pushover), so my current WP favorite guy is Vexcalibur. Sorry.



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18 Apr 2012, 2:37 am

As some women have explained it to me - and I'm inclined to agree, in some cases - shy does not necessarily mean nice. You can be shy and still be needy, possessive, jealous, and controlling, none of which are particularly nice to the other person. You can even see that mentality in some of the comments on the thread, with some people saying they're being "ripped off" by the "jerks". Women don't *owe* you anything, either individually or collectively.

Of course, it goes without saying, you can be shy and not have these qualities, or confident and have them all in spades. Looking back at my own history, I'm inclined to think that although I thought of myself as "nice" because I was quiet and shy, I was also very possessive and clingy and jealous.



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18 Apr 2012, 2:53 am

LKL wrote:
Elemental seems to have left (<-a very nice person, but not a pushover), so my current WP favorite guy is Vexcalibur. Sorry.


You're not my WP favorite girl either ( I know nothing about you), not even on the list, so I am sorry as well



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18 Apr 2012, 2:58 am

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As some women have explained it to me - and I'm inclined to agree, in some cases - shy does not necessarily mean nice. You can be shy and still be needy, possessive, jealous, and controlling, none of which are particularly nice to the other person. You can even see that mentality in some of the comments on the thread, with some people saying they're being "ripped off" by the "jerks". Women don't *owe* you anything, either individually or collectively.

Of course, it goes without saying, you can be shy and not have these qualities, or confident and have them all in spades. Looking back at my own history, I'm inclined to think that although I thought of myself as "nice" because I was quiet and shy, I was also very possessive and clingy and jealous.



Honestly, I noticed that most men in relationships are likely to be possessive, clingy and jealous.
The jerks just hide their "clinginess" (sp?) better.

Male gorillas kill other male gorillas to 'possess' females in the wild, you know...... it's a remnant in the men's nature.



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18 Apr 2012, 3:16 am

edgewaters wrote:
As some women have explained it to me - and I'm inclined to agree, in some cases - shy does not necessarily mean nice. You can be shy and still be needy, possessive, jealous, and controlling, none of which are particularly nice to the other person. You can even see that mentality in some of the comments on the thread, with some people saying they're being "ripped off" by the "jerks". Women don't *owe* you anything, either individually or collectively.

Of course, it goes without saying, you can be shy and not have these qualities, or confident and have them all in spades. Looking back at my own history, I'm inclined to think that although I thought of myself as "nice" because I was quiet and shy, I was also very possessive and clingy and jealous.

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