emo-ness to the over 9000th power... (need help with girl)

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so i know this sounds stupid, but ive been in love with my best friend for about a year. and i really want to be with her in a more then friend relationship (not necarily a sexual one but just where were considered a boyfriend/girlfriend) and i let her know how i felt about her on accident a while back when she was with her ex (they broke up like 2 weeks later because he was cheating on her) and i was just wondering if and how i should ask her out... however theres one major issue, school is out for the summer and im going into my junior year of high school and shes just graduated as a senior. and idk i just was wondering what the best way to ask her out is, she said she thinks of me as a friend but one time at school she said she liked me once and i freaked out in class and got all nervous and started stuttering and shaking, and i think that may have made her think i didnt like her the same way. but i want to let her know i love her, but not in a way that damage our friendship if she says no...

im getting really depressed over this and i just dont know what else to do

why are you asking us, you know you want to, and you know you have no reason whatsoever not to do it

i know i just want to know a way to ask her in a way that wont mess up our friendship if she says no. also should i do it through text, phone call, or in person (id like to do it in text or phone call but my friend says that you never ask someone out through the phone so idk)

It takes courage to do things like that in person, and she'll respect that, even if she says no. And wouldn't it mess up the friendship just as much if you liked her for a really long time and she never knew? You'll probably regret NOT trying more than you would trying and failing. (Not that you'll fail...good luck!)

Also--you don't have to ask her out, necessarily. You could tell just try talking to her about how you feel about her. That way she doesn't have to give you an answer so quickly.

Life is too short not to try. It's not easy, but ask her out, just don't insist on only your desired version of the relationship. I was talking with an old friend recently who had done that years ago with a mutual friend. He was an idiot.

When asking her out, if she says no, it's best to just accept it. If she says yes, start with something small like a talk in a coffee shop (eg.Starbucks) or go to the cinemas with her.