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So is it possible for Men and Women to be "just friends" with no attraction on either side? I mean close dear friends that care for one another. And if your in a relationship should you continue to have such friendships without that person also being friends with your partner. Just need some outside input here.... any thoughts ???

I tend to be pretty jealous and possessive... and I knew about my BF's friend.... but I didn't know the intensity of the friendship until recently.... and he says he only cares for her as a friend nothing more.... but I'm a little miffed. And I'm wondering if I should be. Because in my experience a friendship that close means there was an attraction on one side or the other and once not reciprocated the friendship continued and both decided that's it. But the attraction or wish or desire is still underlying.

I'm good friends with my brothers. No desire there.

Is it possible.... Yes.

Is it common ... (apart from siblings).... no... not really.

Usually there's something hidden beneath the surface - even if it's only felt by one person.

It's possible, but extremely difficult. All the strangers I talk to for non-work reasons I do so because I think they're attractive. I've never really been friends with a girl in the same way I could be with a good bro, so I don't consider them real friendships. It's a curious fact that a lot of girls I do know claim that most of their guy friends have asked them out and they're the ones they've rejected.

Sooo, f**k friendship between sexes.

it's possible.

my best friend is my stepsister and even then only as recently as 2-3 years ago. and while i would take a bullet for that girl and we're really close, i don't really feel sexually towards her.

might've when we first met, but that died away and turned towards more pure feelings.

we hangout all the time and when she has relationship problems and such or needs someone to confide in or someone to be able to cry in front of or vice versa minus the crying on my part because i'd rather be kicked in the balls than show that kind of vulnerability. plus, playing the role of secret keeper and such.

you can't buy that kind of close friendship and i wouldn't change it for the world.

talked it over several times and decided that once we move out, we're gonna get an apartment and be roommates. lol

It is possible.

Research indicates that men who were raised in families with sisters are more likely to be able to do it than men who had brothers only.

I've had several platonic gf's, some because I wanted it that way and some because I was frienzoned (I'm not horrible in social situations, but reading a person of the opposite sex I am interested in to see if she shares the feeling is the dealkiller!! !) or due to business reasons or they had a bf and I just drew a firm line and did not cross it.

Currently I have a platonic lady friend who realizes (as I do) that if we had met each other when we were both single there would have been enough chemistry to have dated. But honestly it makes my stock go up in her eyes - that I will not cross that line no matter what. We are actually great confidantes. But I am a musician so maybe this kind of sensitivity comes easier than it would for most guys. Or maybe it's her ADHD.

Possible, just don't be interested in sex when approaching the opposite gender. I get away with it because i mostly talk about what goes on in my classes. Otherwise i don't "look" too enthusiast meeting people in general, probably makes me look less problematic. =/

Most of my friends are girls, ergo its possible.

Nothing is impossible...

but

friends don't have to be lovers, but lovers have to be friends

Yes it's possible to be platonic friends with the opposite sex, but I think about the only way this can happen is if the relationship is casual, and neither one is attracted to the other person in that way. This doesn't happen very often, and things can change though.

I have a few female friends from work, but they are older, married, and I don't spend an excess amount of time with them either.

The really close friendships between males and females like the OP described, I would worry about. There is a very good chance that one, or both are/have been attracted to each other, but didn't get any further for whatever reasons. It's usually the guy that has a thing for the girl, and she see's him as "just a friend", but sometimes, it's the other way around.

If your dating someone, and they are closer, get along better, and get more of their emotional needs from another person of the opposite sex than they do you, then you have a problem.