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I hope my fellow aspie brothers and sisters can help me with my marriage problems I am enduring.

This current marriage is my third marriage to my wife of 2 and half years, named Marta. It is causing me great stressful in my life, as I fear I will soon reach my third divorce and my mother of 75 years is very elderly now. She would much like to see me settle with a wife to take care of me before she dies as my farther. It would place a great shame upon me for my third marriage to end.

We have many communicational problems and Marta finds my Asperger Syndrome very difficult to deal with. Besides as well as this, I have for the last 3 months been having sexual relations with my neighbours's daughter, Boleslava

Myself and my wife would be very contented together if it were not for my many problems and her incapability of dealing with them.

Any help is being much appreciated. Thank you

I originally from Belarus, however no longer have lived there in 26 years.

I am not born in 1978 however I cannot correct my age. I initally did put 1958 however the website I am on say I am 30 year old
Do you know how I can correct my age?

Well, having sex with anyone except your wife is not how you make a marriage work. She's "taking care of you", but you're cheating on her? Not cool.

I aggree that how I am behaving is immoral, however I have a very high sex drive and my wife refuses to allow me to sleep in her bed anymore. Where I am now it is unnaceptable for me to go into her bed without concent. I have strong feelings of guilty, but can not stop it.

I smell "troll"....

What is "troll"?

Someone can please explain this to me? I do not want to cause breaking of rules here on this site

But how I can stop this behavour?


My wife is constant nagging me, she believes my Asperger syndrom is an excuse
for my action.

Go see a sex therapist.
Then go see a couples therapist with your wife...
though personally I find the view that her purpose is to take care of you disgusting.

I don't understand, are you saying you can't stop your high sex drive or stop having sex with the neighbor's daughter?

*Cracks neck*

First of all...the fact you are 50 or so (I'm guessing) means the relationship with the daughter is immoral at best. I full well realise you may have an exceptionally high sex life but I do believe there are some medications to help control arousal.

If am not judging.

Failing that...do what most men do and take it "in hand"

Did you ever wonder what'd happen if the news of this actually got out? Complete social isolation, hatred, attacks...you're only furthering your bad position by ploughing her.

As to your wife...why did you not check before you married as to her views on autism and aspergers?

I for one wouldn't marry anyone that didn't understand me for me.

As to DonkeyBuster's comment...I think the OP was primarily inserting his mother's view of wanting him to be taken care of, not his own belief that a woman is to cake care of him.

I find it interesting you blame yourself FarmerJim for your problems. Did you make yourself an Aspie? No. Did you ask God or whatever divinity you believe in for Autism before conception?

If not...the root cause is not your fault. How you deal with it...up to you.

You could always strike a bargain with your wife so you can go see prostitutes whenever so long as you are discreet and keep everything above-board/ yourself free of STD's/ wear a condom.

*Shrugs*

Frankly...I think you've done a really stupid thing. But that's just me.

Regards
GM