Board index › Coping in life › Love and Dating

letting a girl know you're interested in her in work setti

Page 1 of 1 [ 6 posts ] 

Previous topic | Next topic

roadGames
Velociraptor
Velociraptor

User avatar

Joined: 18 Oct 2007
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 401

11 Aug 2009, 7:59 pm

ngs

How do you do this? There's this girl I talked to once after class last semester and we hit it off real well. Today, she served my table when my buddies and I went out for dinner, and I totally wanted to ask her out, but it just felt creepy as hell asking a waitress for her number, especially in front of my friends. Even more so, I'm sort of sh***y at detecting signals and she could just be being nice because it's her job.

How much do you guys generally interact with a girl before you ask her out? I've only done the right off the bat approach once and it worked out really well (i.e. I got a date out of it, and while there wasn't a third date, at the beginning, things certainly were going well and I'm still good friends with this girl), but still, the cumulative amount of interaction I had with the girl was more than 10-15 minutes.



sinsboldly
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Nov 2006
Gender: Female
Posts: 13,488
Location: Bandon-by-the-Sea, Oregon

11 Aug 2009, 9:17 pm

roadGames wrote:
ngs

How do you do this? There's this girl I talked to once after class last semester and we hit it off real well. Today, she served my table when my buddies and I went out for dinner, and I totally wanted to ask her out, but it just felt creepy as hell asking a waitress for her number, especially in front of my friends. Even more so, I'm sort of sh***y at detecting signals and she could just be being nice because it's her job.
.


how cool she isn't your 'waitress' all the time! She is an aquaintance that you hit it off pretty well with when she isn't working. I can see being anxious that if you asked her out in front of your buddies that might have been complicated had she said yes, or if she had said no. So, don't ask her out in front of your buddies. Wait until she is not in the role of your 'waitress' and see what happens!

Unless you wouldn't want to be dateing your buddies waitress. That dating "out side of your peer group relationship" rarely survives the peer pressure.


_________________
Alis volat propriis
State Motto of Oregon


roadGames
Velociraptor
Velociraptor

User avatar

Joined: 18 Oct 2007
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 401

11 Aug 2009, 9:42 pm

The thing is, there's basically no way I can talk to her outside of her being at work now because I graduated college. God dammit. I think I'll just go there with my brother sometime (or I could go with a female friend of mine that didn't want to get into a relationship with me but I'm still good friends with [lol, that would be pure evil because I'm almost positive my friend would get jealous]) and just write my number on the tab (is this a good idea?).

Also, it seems like it's OK to ask girls out on dates within 10-15 minutes of knowing them (I mean, I've done basically that once and it worked well). Last time I saw her, I unintentionally gave off this vibe that I didn't really want to chat for too long, but now I just realized I could've used that completely to my advantage by saying something like "Hey, I've gotta get going but I think we should continue this sometime over a plate of spaghetti like those dogs in that movie."



sinsboldly
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Nov 2006
Gender: Female
Posts: 13,488
Location: Bandon-by-the-Sea, Oregon

11 Aug 2009, 10:15 pm

roadGames wrote:
The thing is, there's basically no way I can talk to her outside of her being at work now because I graduated college. God dammit. I think I'll just go there with my brother sometime (or I could go with a female friend of mine that didn't want to get into a relationship with me but I'm still good friends with [lol, that would be pure evil because I'm almost positive my friend would get jealous]) and just write my number on the tab (is this a good idea?).

Also, it seems like it's OK to ask girls out on dates within 10-15 minutes of knowing them (I mean, I've done basically that once and it worked well). Last time I saw her, I unintentionally gave off this vibe that I didn't really want to chat for too long, but now I just realized I could've used that completely to my advantage by saying something like "Hey, I've gotta get going but I think we should continue this sometime over a plate of spaghetti like those dogs in that movie."


"Lady and the Tramp?" wow. That is like from my childhood and I am ancient.

Sure that would be casual and if she is totally not into it she can beg off easily enough. But remember, if she says she is busy, she might really BE busy, (and not giving you a 'go away' vibe) and give her a break, K?


_________________
Alis volat propriis
State Motto of Oregon


roadGames
Velociraptor
Velociraptor

User avatar

Joined: 18 Oct 2007
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 401

12 Aug 2009, 10:51 pm

So if anybody else can give me a heads up on whether or not writing the number on the tab is the way to roll or not, that'd be cool. I'm all outta ideas otherwise.



C-57D
Sea Gull
Sea Gull

User avatar

Joined: 1 Aug 2009
Age: 46
Gender: Male
Posts: 237
Location: LDN

13 Aug 2009, 2:14 am

How about next time she waits on your table, you just talk to her... "Hi, remember me? We were in a class together last year" kind of thing. And ask if she'd like to catch up sometime when she's not at work.
And then you write your number on the tab, or something.

I used to wait tables, and some of the girls I worked with just ignored any number they got given, because they were getting 10 or more a shift.


_________________
"Be uncomfortable; be sand, not oil, in the machinery of this world." - Günter Eich (1907-1972)