When's the last time you had the courage to ask anyone out?

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When's the last time you had the courage to ask anyone out?

5 years and that was asking to meet a gal offline, she declined.


I'm totally convinced my looks hold me back so don't bother mustering up the courage anymore - I think it's called "learned helplessness" - it occurs when, after experiencing repeated rejection, an individual is conditioned to assume all other potential prospects will also reject them. if only girls would take the initiative, but that only happens to hot guys.

Never, I just can't do it. Plus the girl I really like is already taken, oh it figures but even if she weren't, I don't know if I could anyways. If I ever have the guts to pursue a girl, I'd try to hint going out without directly saying it or perhaps we'd become friends first. I know for one thing, I'll never ask out a stranger ever, I'd have to know her first.

About a year and a half ago. Let me tell you, I won't be making that mistake again. He went out of his way to make a fool of me, and to be sure he'd hurt me.

Having courage usually isn't an issue. Knowing someone I want to ask out is the issue. I just haven't known anyone I wanted to ask out for several years with one exception. There was a girl about a month ago I was going to ask out then I found out she was engaged so that kind of stopped that.

It's not so much a matter of courage for me either. Last time I wanted to ask someone out [1] was almost 4 years ago, and I did so. Since then there hasn't been anyone I've wanted to ask out.

[1] Well, okay, it wasn't exactly asking out as in asking for a date, but it was expressing romantic interest.

Almost 20 years ago. I married her later, and have been married ever since.

Never. It seems something really hard for me to do.

Yesterday. But I got turned down.

It depends on what you mean by "asked out" I mean I've gotten laid but it wasn't asking anyone out (I wasn't into dates). I'm single right now and it's been over a year since I actually asked a girl out (gentleman style), so I'm not even sure when or where something will happen next. I just hope I can get some sort of long term relationship started (slowly) before I get too old for it.

It depends on what you mean by "asked out" I mean I've gotten laid but it wasn't asking anyone out (I wasn't into dates). I'm single right now and it's been over a year since I actually asked a girl out (gentleman style), so I'm not even sure when or where something will happen next. I just hope I can get some sort of long term relationship started (slowly) before I get too old for it.

If you're being charitable about it, the last time was a couple of months ago. She accepted but then told me over a text message that she would contact me when she was free, and she never did. It's hard to say whether it would have been a date, but it would have been a personal one-on-one get-together with someone of the opposite sex and she seemed interested at the time...

2 years ago.

I was overly confident in those days. It was at a jazz club and after having 6 shots of vodka and feeling dead sexy, I asked this guy friend whom I frequently talked to if he wanted to go out some other time. He gave me a weird look like wtf is wrong with you?

I'd forgotten it was him and his new girlfriend that drove me at the club in the first place. There she was staring at me like a cat ready to pounce on its prey.

It was the most humilating experience in my life....

Well she knew me and him were long time friends before she was in the picture so yeah...I guess that was a little weird.

Plus alcohol use to be my motivator when it came to confidence. I looked in the weirdest places like bars and clubs just for a relationship.

Well, a good buddy could've chalked it up to simple alcohol use (nature's get out free card). I'll bet a little deeper down he was flattered that you had the kind of feelings that you kept out of the way for him and his girl. I don't know what it is with brand new couples that makes them act like they're gonna disappear on eachother if they break eye contact or hand holding with eachother. You don't lose any cool points for getting them insecure about it.