Should I even dare do the dating game?

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I'm sure this post is here somewhere but I'm kinda busy ATM. Anyways, I am a 7th Grader (Middle School) and it seems that everyone has a girlfriend/boyfriend. Now I KNOW that the NT + NT relationships = Nothing at my school but I'm willing to break a heart or two to try. Any advice or can someone point me to something on the web? And If I find anything useful I'll post it here as well

Are you emotionally ready for a relationship? That's a thing to thing of before you try to date. Just because everyone else is doing it is not a good idea (remember the question 'if everyone was jumping off a cliff would you do it too?'). I was ninteen when I thought I was ready to date and 22 before I met my boyfriend. If you feel that you are ready to date well and good though.

Advice wise, be presentable (by this I mean, be clean and look at the fashion at your school if you don't wear uniforms), observe behaviours and see how the popular guys hold themselves (body language), look at the girls too (try to see how girls who like certian guys react, it will give you a chance to see if a girl likes you that), also big thing, be polite but not over polite when talking to girls.

Most of this is very difficult but the main things, being presentable and polite but not over polite are the important.

Also I think there is a dating thread for certian age groups at the top of the Love and Dating part of the forum.

I don't know what age is seventh grade (different school system here), can you say?

im worried about "willing to break a heart or two"

does this imply your just gonna play the game? test the rules? all the way to the point of breaking a heart OR two?

thats very cold, and youll learn very little from it, other than manipulation.

People always say this. How would one actually know??? Surely, a large part of ones emotional development occurs precisely through being *in* a relationship?

There's a paradox at work here. You won't know if you are ready for a relationship until you try, and you won't try to have a relationship until you feel you're ready. And regardless of how you feel, the relationship will be different and challenging in ways you won't anticipate.

At least that was my experience, though I was 21 before I had my first date of any sort, let alone felt ready for a relationship.

Just to clear something up, I was talking about mine.



12-13... I know that is a bit early but doens't hurt to work at my social skills any, does it :P

wow is that you in the picture? if so you kinda look like (hee hee) lol, but anyways ...sure go for it. If u start now, you mess up now and then you wont end up 30 and never had a kiss or gf, and you wont end up beating yourself up or hurting someone else because of it. just dont make it your number one priority, and dont try to change yourself. Because in school its all about whos popular in the real world its all about who has the most money.they are both so shallow but hey.

okay, i thought that may be an option (except people have only one heart each)

if so, go for it. just know, people jump off bridges over a broken heart ;]
just know what your committing yourself to, and good luck