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most chicks my age are not only taken, but has kids.
haha



whatever i get, whenever, if ever, will be the leftovers of someone elses unsuccessfull relationship.

awesome!

Yeah I feel the same way.

Most guys around my age are already married!!

welcome to the 21st century. try to look at it from a positive angle. girls and women have the same problem in relationships boys and men have. none of us innately understand what we really want in a relationship or how to get it. experience is the best teacher. if you have your heart set on an untouched virgin who's never been in a real relationship, you're not likely to have too much luck. even if you find her you'd basically have to be one of the luckiest people on the planet to get everything right.


people aren't "leftovers." people are people. we're all different and we won't necessarily be happy just because we try.
if you ever find someone who fits you well enough to be considered "the right girl," you won't care if she's been with one person or one hundred.

the only way to find someone who's never been touched by the outside world is to kidnap them at birth and keep them in a secret basement prison.


which is totally not cool so don't do that.

just try to see the positive aspects of experience.

love isn't some arcane magic, it just looks that way from the outside. if you ever find it, it feels natural.

My only stipulation for a marriage is that she's up for more kids... I don't care if she already has kids, but I need to have my own kids... I absolutely refuse to just be a caretaker for some other guy's kids... Other than that, I don't really care about whether she's a mother or not... Plus, any kids she has could provide a good indicator as to how good of a mother she is... for example, if the kids are well-behaved for their age, she obvioulsy has some skill as a mother and that actually increases her value...

People are marrying older. If you want an idea of where you fit in your country as a whole, start here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_at_first_marriage

EDIT: why is the age so much lower in the U.S. than it is in Canada?

deadeyexx: i know that, im just wallowing in my one-time-forever-loss at being someones "#1"

ZEGH8578 wrote:

MissConstrue wrote:

Yeah I feel the same way.

Most guys around my age are already married!!

hah yeah now you gotta wait for one of them to mess up bad, and hope that he wasnt the main cause of the mess-up (cus that wouldnt be very promising for you )

i tell myself that theres more to life, but then i look around, and in MY case, its not really true. i got basically nothing

then i tell myself, what do i even want a relationship for?
1. GETTING one would mean months and years of snailing foreward, being too dysfunctional to just get to the point in one single evening, like normal people do "hi!" "hi there" *smooche-out*

2. what FOR? sex? kids? companionship? one by one, none of these factors are all that inviting.

still
its a sad thought

imagining myself at 80, w my computer, chatting and gaming

Yeah I kind of feel the same way.

I don't think I could live the rest of my life alone...but I am already.

On the otherhand, relationships take a lot of energy and space....I like my space. So I'm caught between wanting freedom from a relationship and wanting a relationship. I think much of my ASD related issues has something to do with this. I'm even crap when it comes to lasting friendships because most people confuse my cold and distant countenance to that of being no longer interested.

the alpha male is a myth. since, as humans, we generally pair up instead of giving an alpha male mating rights over the entire tribe (for the most part). to be an alpha male requires an attitude shift. this was very hard for me until i learned that there are as many different types of females as there are males (which, in and of itself was more than i had realized). for a very long time, i had a "me vs them" attitude toward everyone i didn't get... which was... well... everyone.

more and more i find myself "getting" people now and i realize that for the most part, i really don't care about the things they care about and they don't care about what i care about. there's no point in looking for a relationship when your worldview is based on "me vs them" and so all attempts ultimately fail until you can find an "us." sometimes, this can be as simple as finding that one-in-a-million match that you innately understand and who understands you. more often, this is the more complicated path of finding someone who you care to learn more about. this path will often dead end when you find out more about them that you don't like or just can't relate to. that's ok. you can never succeed until you understand what causes failure.


in any case, i have a feeling that by "desirable" you mean "sexy." insert lame beauty is in the eye of the beholder b.s. here. ok now that that's out of the way, let me let you in on a little secret. hot girls are rarely worth it. seriously. when was the last time you had a conversation with one of these more "desirable" women that you were interested in for the topic's sake? if the purpose of a girlfriend, for you, is a sexual partner, then that's fine. it won't last and it will be annoying to keep up but whatever rocks your boat. if, on the other hand, your purpose in wanting a girlfriend is a lifelong companion, try to keep in mind that it takes a lot of money to keep a hot girl hot her whole life anyways, and you'll be spending a lot more time talking to each other than you'll spend in bed.







as far as the name "waltur," i'd love to fill you in but i have terrible time management skills and must quickly dress and run out the door as i'll be late for work soon. if you search "waltur" you'll find a thread where someone asked the origin of nicknames and i replied with the answer to mine.