Finally figured out my ideal partner

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Earlier this evening, I went on a rather pleasant date with a very nice lady who'd "winked" at me on Match.com.

I've been on Match.com for over a year, and so far have never responded when a contact has come in. But her profile was so close to mine, and she seemed to have so many qualities I admired, I decided to respond.

The date went well, but it was clear she was (what a surprise) an NT looking for another NT. Despite many years of effort and (so I like to think) self-enlightenment, I think I am still too "weird" for mainstream NT folks, and probably always will be.

At this point, I've concluded that the only viable (female) partner for me will have the following traits:

- Self-aware high-functioning Aspie, or NT who likes and knows how to do care and feeding of Aspies (I've learned some things about care and feeding of NT's, incidentally)
- Preferably Asexual or thereabouts. Sex, I can take or leave (see http://www.asexuality.org)
- Age range roughly 35-50
- Must roll toothpaste tube from the bottom (negotiable)

After much effort, I've finally decided that I cannot and never will be able to fit into the "standard upwardly mobile socially presentable" and/or "sexually predaceous" type, and anyone who approaches me thinking I can be is going to be disappointed.

I notice that the words "asexual" and "asperger" don't match any profiles on Match.com. By golly they ought to, and I think I'll be the first to update my profile accordingly.

[Edit] And I did. It's now prefaced with:

Before we get to my profile, I'd like to say something up-front.

If you are a high-functioning Aspergers person (Aspie), or an "NT" who likes and understands Aspies, I'd be very interested in hearing from you. I've come to the conclusion that only Aspies (and a few NTs) know how to take care of other Aspies, and indeed not a lot of non-Aspies handle living with us well.

As Aspies go, I'm probably pretty button-down (and I've learned something about keeping NTs happy), but at the same time I will probably never fit in with expectations of standard "upwardly-mobile-socially-acceptable" personality expectations. There is just too much of Jim Ignatowski (or "crazy professor") in me for that.

Having said that...

<Usual vanilla profile>

Now we'll see if they approve it...

Last edited by vits3k on 30 Jan 2006, 12:18 am, edited 1 time in total.

oh.. ok?

congrats?

your requirements seem quite straight-forward - you aren't exactly asking for a lot. You should be able to meet someone like that I am sure.

The toothpaste thing is a killer.... I expect this is a list of many things that you don't like.... I am the same and the person can be perfect apart from this tiny thing... i.e. they bite their nails, or have smelly feet etc or they just smell wrong. That last one, damn important.