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I like this girl and have her number. The problem is that I'm too afraid to call her. How do I build up the courage to call her?

Liquid courage.

Try not to place too much importance on it. Just treat it like you are calling an old friend or relative. You have her number so you have already done the hard part.

Logically, what's the worst that could happen? You'll either a.) hit it off, or b.) you won't. In either case, success or failure, it's no one's responsibility to tap dance to seem interesting and it's no one's fault if you two don't get on well.

I say, put up or shut up.

That's what my mom says. I sometimes forget her advice. We're close, which is normal for an aspie.

Here's another way: (but not so sure if this is good)

Step by step procedures are as follow:

1. Dial her number and try to contact her
2. When she answered the phone,try to pretend that you're calling someone,not her..
3.Pretend that you'll already realizing that you're calling the wrong number
4.Apologize
5.Try to keep the conversation by changing the topic

btw,did you understand that? It's quite hard to explain...hmmm..

Source: NTs...I had figured our their style

Last edited by visnofskygirl on 23 Aug 2009, 6:16 pm, edited 1 time in total.

THIS IS A BAD IDEA.

Step by step procedures are as follow:

1. Dial her number
2. Start with a compliment (something as vague as "I'm interested in you" is fine)
3. Would you like to go out to ... on ... night?
4. If plagued by uncontrollable shakes/sweating, thank her, and politly disengage (make sure when and where is clear to you and her)
5. Hang up
6. Take a shower (and change your pants, if necissary)

It's incredible the number of different possible approaches suggested on here. I endorse all of them.

Just remember, when you do phone, she isn't expecting anything special. Instead, she'll hopefully be pleasantly surprised to find that you have chosen to contact her and charmed that you are suggesting you do something. This will all work in your favour. However, if you build up the situation, it'll become obvious what's going to come and you've lost the surprise and charm. Keep it casual, keep it light, but get the question in there if she's enjoying the conversation, as I guess you should talk to her for a few minutes first. (This is assuming she gave you her number hoping you'd ring her, if you simply obtained her number without her knowledge then I'm uncertain if this would work).

If you are nervous about making a phone call make some notes on a piece of paper beforehand. Write down all the points you want to make. If you want to have a quick conversation first before asking her out think about things that might interest her. Ask her about her hobbies, her vacation, her sick friend or whatever else you might know about her. Write potential subject matter down. Chances are you will never look at your paper but it will force you to have an idea about what to say.

Then ask her out. Proper planning prevents poor performance.

Yeah, I sorta kinda have that problem...I'd like to know the solution, myself. But I find that after a moment or so, it isn't so bad. Just go with the flow.

has anyone ever heard of texting