JohnHopkins wrote:
You're right, some of it can't be helped, but a lot of it quite easily could for many of those on here, especially if they stopped listening to their diagnosis and just gave something ago instead of trying to consider it from every possible angle. And if people stopped caring as much about being embarassed or rejected then they'd probably go further too.
That's very true. I think anymore when I'm out, I'll still notice in the background that enough people that we meet when we're out, at least on the wrong nights, give me a vibe off the top like they want nothing to do with me, already have me judged however people judge someone who's aspie-different, and their control over the situation is completely stolen by the fact that I don't need a thing from them, don't care what they think, and further show every sign that I refuse to take whatever their thinking is my identity.
Sometimes its almost a bit eerie to realize that the things that the superficial things that had people rejecting before never fully went away, in a sense nothing's really changed and nothing ever will. At the same time though I feel like life is going forward in manner that can actually work, I have close friends - *very* NT at that, people who help balance me out and I'm slowly starting to meet women who I can connect with in a romantic equivalent as well as my longterm friends of...geez...with some of them its going on twelve years. What I do realize about myself though is that I do have certain things going for me, for other people who are similarly set to myself I'd very much encourage them to set the standards rather than let other people define them, then again for people who aren't on the same playing field or who are heavier on the spectrum as to come more than just a little odd - I have a much harder time gauging that or how much they can tell themselves that their subconscious won't spit right back out.