please stop these "any girls out there" threads

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anyone else really depressed by those pessimistic, hopeless sounding thread "any aspie girls in texas..." "any aspie singles out there wanna hook up".."im just posting this to see if there is a single aspie chick out there..."

Why the heck would any woman want to reply, to some guy who just wants "anyone convenient" and knows nothing about them as a person.

Heres my idea -

look around the forum to find people (male and female) who share your interests, be it politics, rock music, science.
Then, chat to them for a while, untill you find a couple that you really "click" with, same sense of humor, same outlook on life, easy to chat to. Send them PMs telling them you like their posts and would like to be friends with them. Then get to know them better over email, pm, phone msn or whatever.

If you make as many friends as you can this way, IMO you are far more likely to meet a partner on here.
And (as has been proved by couples here) if they're the right one they'll travel any distance to meet you, as opposed to meeting out of convenience because you both live in Texas.

Theres nothing wrong with looking for and meeting local aspies, of course. But I think thats better for finding friends first, than specifically looking for a partner that way.

While I agree with you, we also got to understand that not everyone on the same level of education (and by that I don't mean school but in general), some are more affected asperger and may have had very low support throught their life. So don't mind them asking thing you don't like or find odd, just give them suggestion on what they should do in place, which you did in this post, but I disagree with how you presented the situation in your introduction, don't really need to lower their self-esteem by adding so many negative adjective over their action, for those doing that must already need such help in that department.


Hope what I said made sense.

I love you man, not in a gay way , but I love you.

Any guys out there in London? Just kidding.

I'm getting sick of those types of threads, as well. That's what Aspie Affection is supposed to be for. It's a turn off for me, since I'm not really interested in guys, right now. Is there a rule that says that every person on this planet, over the age of 17 is supposed to have a romantic partner? Oh, please!

I do look for female Aspies with the same interests and beliefs as me, but finding somebody is impossible. I don't limit myself to a certain area.

Artsy, likes Simpsons and South Park, Republican, Christian, curvy in appearance, college educated, and sexually uninhibited.

I did meet someone with the above characteristics, but she turned me down because of the distance (and she just lived in another part of Texas). I tried to reason with her, but she wouldn't listen or compromise, and insisted on having everything her way all the time. She eventually ran off with someone else and refuses to even be my friend anymore.

*Shrug* OP has a point I guess. I come here because it's a support site. And it's my understanding that the love and dating bit is to provide guidance and encouragement in gaining intrapersonal skills, or a fresh perspective on a situation.

Guys looking for girls in their area would probably have more luck in a dating service because the women on there are looking. Or at the very least posting in one of the specifically designated stickies thread for this sort of thing.