Affection and Anxiety...feel the same to me.

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This goes for me in general, but I mention it here because it applies to this too. I have general affection for people I like. Such as my grandparents, or people I know online that I've talked to that share my interests, or a few friends I know IRL. It's been this way all my life. It's like an excitement, but with a sense of anxiousness about it. If I cannot reach the person because they are away, or if they just drop off contact, it turns to anxious sadness.

The thing is, when I really start to feel close to a person, a feeling like a throbbing in my heart area or just under there makes itself evident. Especially if I'm away from them for a time.

I have never had a boyfriend but I feel this way towards guys that I am pondering whether to approach about whether we'd be a good match.

Anybody else get this? Do we know what it is?

i'm not sure. but i do know that basically every emotion i feel--positive or negative--can eventually become anxiety; from there, it cycles into agitation. i'd like to know how to handle this. it really constricts my social life, and even makes work more difficult. (i can never "turn off" after keeping any kind of schedule. agitation keeps me awake much of the night.)

i'd like to think it isn't debilitating in my case. but the fact is: it really is one of the most problematic aspects of my AS. it's pretty severe.

That sounds about right. So I just try not to show much emotion, or to control what I do show.

The same for me. But, I'm affraid, in many ways I'm maybe not so Asperger.

Though I thought it was more a borderline trait.

it's the same feeling I get when I'm anticipating a TV show to come on that I really want to watch...

I don't think they're one and the same, but affection tends to trigger anxiety as a secondary effect...