I can't find anyone I like :(

Post Reply New Topic

I've been looking around for guys but I've had no luck, I have even looked out of my state. There's a guy at my school that likes me, but he has poor hygiene and seems to have no goals in life (or at least no goals I find to be attractive). There is also another guy at my school that seems like a good guy except I only see him as a brother or really good friend and not a potential partner. There was this guy I really liked at one point and that I still kind of like who invited me to his prom when I was a freshman but now he's engaged to the girl of his dreams . I did start looking around on Aspie Affection and I actually did find a guy! He seemed really cool except after getting to know him for awhile I found out he wore women's underwear and that he seemed like he wanted to be a woman over actually dating one. His sense of humor was also kind of strange for he did "phoenetic punctuation" when he talked (he really likes Victor Borge) and he always joked around about me having a penis, just because I made a joke one day about me having one (I'm not a man... ). On top of that he now is intrested in not only me but another girl.

Why can't I find any decent, stable guys? I'm really sad about it and I'm sorry about venting everything in this thread

it's pretty garbage out there if the location is a 'small town'.

What's really difficult is finding a person that not only shares interests but is stable, etc.

I can't find anything here...

The sad thing is.. I don't really live in a small town, it's where the state university is so there's bound to be a lot of people. Yeah, and you're right I can't find anyone who seems to be stable and shares similar interests to me. I feel doomed

i feel your pain in a sense, im a magnet for married dudes. there are a lot of colleges in my town but my town is a hole. the closest big town is 3+ hours away.

I was single for a long time, and my coworkers would question me about it. My response was always that I haven't found the right guy. Finally, a coworker from Africa told me, "let him find you.", which made sense.....maybe there are guys interested in you that you haven't noticed....

To me it sounds like you're trying too hard. Since your a female, you have it where you don't have to be the one looking. I think you shouldn't focus on it so much and concentrate on others things. As far as I can see, trying too hard will only mean your willing to settle for almost anyone and it doesn't matter who you are, you have every right to be picky and careful in finding people. You don't want to go for bad choices. I also believe that online dating is the worst thing anyone can do, you never know who you are going to get. I could say I'm a 16 year old girl right now if I wanted to and I'd be able to fool people. That's the power of the internet.

Don't worry, you'll find someone.

Going on the topic-header I always found that to be a very relatable problem, ie. that through my teens, even my 20's, part of the reason I didn't ask women out often at all was that I very rarely ever had anyone around who I felt that way toward. The more distinct and esoteric your personality the harder it is to really be gobsmacked by chemistry with someone.

At least as I've gotten older I've not only learned exactly what type of girls I'd have great chemistry with (mutually) but I'm also finding many types of women who I would have passed on before at certain times (ie. preppies, bargirls, anyone I would have thought was way off base) and I'm realizing that they can surprise the heck out of me sometimes as well. As of right now, even at 29, it still seems like the wisest move to just keep self-improving, keep ratcheting up my confidence in whatever ways possible, keep finding ways to make myself more industrious, partly because I enjoy feeling like I have my destiny in my own hands in a positive sense but also because I know particular my visual chemistry is (I don't choose it, life would be much easier if I wasn't this way - can't change it though) so, from that end the better I can do for myself the better the options I'll have and the more likely I'll be able to find someone who hits the spot equally for me as I do for her.

There are no datable girls at my school at all. Most of them would laugh at the idea of dating me, but that's because they're neurologically deficient and have no taste in genuine intelligent boys.

It doesn't matter where you live. If the timing is right, then you will find the right one for you. Sometimes they will be right under your nose, and you won't even know it, unless you know what you are looking for.

It sounds like you're twenty-something and associating with that crowd. Going with the typical "guys mature slower than women", there is going to be a lack of suitable partners. Rest assured, even the ones who seem to meet and find partners are going to have a 50/50 chance of winding up divorced.

It really appears that people here mature much slower than elsewhere - but wind up with a higher potential once they get there.

Don't feel too horrible about not being able to find someone now. Know you're going to change, and your partners interest too. Look at where you were 4 years ago, and imagine where you could be 4 years from now - and don't think it will be a linear growth!

My 20's were a waste of time in most people's eyes. I was not ready for a serious relationship nor dating. However, all the turmoil during that decade helped set up a firm foundation for my current present.

There are few I would wish my twenty-something version on. Even my thirty-something version is going to take a bit of getting used to.

No offense to MTF transgenders but I never understood the obsession of wanting to be a woman while being with a woman.

I knew a guy like that and you would've thought him a pimp to be with the amount of women he was with. I remember when he got all offended b/c he wanted to go out with me and I told him I wasn't attracted to women....

I am in the same boat.

I was looking for a female Aspie who has the same interests as me, and has the same religious beliefs and sexual preferences as me. But there are only two, and they are both already in relationships.

Curious about something.

Assuming you're in a relationship, but someone much better/richer/prettier/nicer comes along. Do/would/should you have qualms about dropping the person you're with?

If you stay out of loyalty, then (in general) why ever abandon the relationship (as to many being single is worse), as something is better than nothing. You're stuck with the first person you meet.

If you're willing to "date" and shop around for a better match/coupling/mate, then why assume others aren't willing to do the same?

Point is, if you're "da shiznitz" then why wouldn't members of the opposite sex drop whomever they're with and pursue you? And then what stops you from trying to become "da shiznitz" and having this happen?

Same here, hon. *Sigh*

*Falls over, laughing hysterically*