Help... lost emotions

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I was wondering if something similar has happened to anyone here.
Basically the other day I suddenly stopped feeling the way I normally do about my boyfriend. One day I completely adored him, and the next I felt so little. I just want to understand what the hell is going on with my head.
I've been getting a bit stressed recently over our relationship because of a whole load of things and the general message I've been getting from him is that he's stressed already so if I'm going to make things more stressful I should just leave him alone until things are less stressed, so I've been pretending not to be stressed quite a bit.
He actually guessed something seemed to be up with my emotions so I told him, and now he won't talk to me at all until I've figured it out.
I have no idea what the hell is happening to me.

I used to do that in my teens.
But I was more radical than you: I left the guys I was in love with the day or even the moment before.

I don't do it anymore.

Actually, it's become the other way over the years: being unabled to leave when it was still time to do it without being too damaged.

Do you think that there is still possible for it to come back? it seems so stupid to throw something like this away so suddenly

I've never had a long term marriage but I've read that it is a common phenomenon for someone to wake up and look over at their spouse and say to themselves," Oh my God, who is this person?' I think it passes, love goes in ebbs and flows. If you are not miserably unhappy I think you should just ride it out. I think it's normal for people to fall in and out of love in the romantic sense. Most people divorce or break up before the relationship has a chance to reconnect.

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For what?
The emotions?

I don't know, how would I?

I'm sorry Gremmie, I'm afraid you'll have to find it by yourself.
And with your boy-friend of course.

But by what you said in your previous post, the man is patient, he can wait for you to de-stress.

When I get to a certain stress level, most of my emotions just shut off. It may take several weeks until it feels like they are really back.

To the OP, have you been with your boyfriend for long? Rather than anything bad happened, is it that he cares about you?

Sounds topsy turvey, but in my case, if anyone had feelings for me, or proved they were caring I seemed to freeze up and turn them away. I've been on my own long enough to have worked out it was my own self worth problems causing this, that I couldn't really accept someone would value me.

Maybe you need to take some time to yourself interspersed with "dates" with him again, to remind yourself of the early days with him and how you felt then?

Thanks for all the help. We actually seem to have sorted things out a bit now which is a relief. I think it was just the stress just got too much and I shut off, but things are calmer now and we've spoken about stuff, and seem to be back on track. Yay.