How does someone with Asperger's ask a girl out?

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Despite all of the particular "quirks" we tend to have, I hardly ever talk to this girl. I don't know what to say to her or anything. I'd ask her out, I don't have a problem with that, but I can't drive or go anywhere currently. How did you get around this? I honestly have no idea what to do.

Neither can I, and my girl and I are happy nonetheless

how about "hey, hi, wanna go for a cup of coffee and talk about ______________ (where ever you are going to go when you go 'out?'

this way they can check you out with a brief cup of coffee and if they don't wanna go out, then you both are off the hook.

ask her to get coffee. considering that she's probably about as inexperienced as you are, don't worry about it at all, you're only 17. it's great you're figuring this stuff out at your age rather than at 22 like i did.

Text her! That's a whole lot easier than talking face to face.

Of course you will have to ask her number, or exchange numbers. A school project you must discuss?

Start a conversation first; get to know her a little bit. If you guys 'click' and it looks like she's enjoying talking to you, just say 'hey, do you want to go grab a coffee?'.

If she says yes, then during the coffee, you can tell her about a film you've been dying to see, and would she like to go see it? (make it something she would actually want to go see).

She may say no, but at least you asked! Good luck

It's a mystery to me. If I can find some I like and feel very comfortable with or at least know for a while, then maybe I'd be able to do it but never strangers. I'd have to somehow know that she would want to first.

You can stack the odds in your favour (which makes for less humiliation by volume) by not even approaching any girl unless they've shown you that they're interested. Girls do all sorts of things to show this and google is your friend, search 'flirting tips' or 'how can I tell if a girl is attracted to me?' etc...

Thing is if you're the type of guy who's looking for that one perfect girl who meats all your criteria then the above is fairly useless. Like a nice jacket you have to try a few on before finding a nice one to purchase, even then you'll probably get a new one in a year or two. A lot of times you just can't find one that fits so you make do with one that is comfortable enough or is most flattering for your figure. No need to feel guilty either as if you don't want it someone else will, even second hand. I know this sounds terrible but it's only a bad analogy, I've had certain jackets for a long time

i've wondered this too

"Excuse me lady, can you get out of here please?"

Pardon my obvious ignorance, but what's this "grabbing a coffee" deal? No guy's *ever* asked to have coffee with me. If a potential date were to do so, I'd decline the invitation. Something like that sounds fraught with horror (having to sit face-to-face with a stranger while attempting to foil a series of panic attacks, whilst simultaneously trying not to douse myself with a scalding beverage *and* being expected to make small talk, too?!) - and BORING as all hell.

It boggles my mind to think that dates are an *option* for other people, since they're never an option for me. I really can't even imagine it.