I have her and hers Number, now what?

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There is two girls number I managed to get,
one who is in a music group that I go to, I told her I busked in the city and she said i'd like to see that, so I said "well if you give me your number i can buzz ya when im in there sometime" that how I got her number, I really planned and set it up to get that number, I really like how she smiles and stuff, real positive vibes, anyways im not sure if i should ring her, maybe i should keep her number for the future and ask her in person to hang with me, or get something to eat together, or both, 1 thing I like about proceeding with this relationship with her is that she knows i have some problems, and she was still nice enough to give me her number, I like her
but because of a problem in my past, i am sorta heartbroken cos of a girl i knew in grade 5 that was a year older than me,
i made her laugh alot and im sure she "digged" me, but One day i had a breakdown in class and I never was confident enough to talk to her again, it left me very unloved by girls after that, and now i get very confused with love and lust and what type of girl i want, the girl that i was talking about who is in my music lesson sessions, like i said, i adore her smile, but a new girl in the class has left me undecided, i have yet to talk alot more to the other girl, so i will get around to it

im 19 and the best success i've had in my whole life with girls was when i was a little tacker, from 1 to 11, after that bullying started and it sorta of became something out of my reach, but now im back to me again, happy (sorta) but confident again (like a ignorant child)

well today i offered another girl some licourice as i waited for a train that she was also getting on, we started to talk back and forth and i learnt alot about her and thought about the convienience it would be to go out with her as she lives only one suburb over and she works in my suburb, she is 1 year older than me (20) and seems cool & cute, she had beautiful blue eyes too! well when we were halfway to my suburb i suddenly asked her if i could get her number, she said "why?" and i said "to be friends" (but in my mind i did want her to think of other possibilities) and she keyed it into my phone, i was even trying to persuade her into going to a up and coming festival to go to, but she said she's never been to that festival i told her about, i may call her when the festival would about to start or msg her to persuade her, she seems more my type as she has a wild side im sure, but the only problem is that she doesn't know i have aspergers and other conditions,

I really am looking for a girlfriend, or even at least more girls as friends to hang out with, i know im not a bad bloke intentionally, and aren't as mean as some of my ex friends are with there gfs, i can be the bad boy when i want to as im not influenced by people i hang around, so i don't act a certain way to please people, i act in a way that pleases myself, but that doesn't mean im self centered or selfish in my actions, im a rebel with an additude that probably intimidates alot of people, i don't mean it i just talk and act with alot of passion and boldness

so what can you tell me to help me, any tips? ideas for dates? how to make sure that you express a desire not to just be friends without coming on too hard? please help me, im willing to learn, im sick of not having many friends (well i don't really hang with them much cos they are doing their own thing atm), actually i don't really want friends, i just want a girlfriend to be by my side so we can help each other through the difficult living of life

thanks

Oh boy..............

Yeah. Well lemme put it like this:

When you realize you're worth the effort, girls WILL notice.
And then more will glue to you.

It is biology. And it sucks.

You sound a lot like me. If you fancy both girls..well..er..basically, just treat ém as friends for now. If something intimate happens(That being, she tells you something she's really fussing about, you kiss, or things that belong in a romantic comedy....)...Consider her your girlfriend. The other one's not your date. But still a friend.

Just...chill.

You're not a player if you're not out for sex. Basically.


As I said, you sound a lot like me, especially the "myself again after bullying" and being an honest, if a bit selfish individual-bits....so if you want a blokey friend half a planet away...Msg me!


Luck!

well nowadays im alot more confident, and it is a big thing for me to talk to girls and basically try to pick em up and get their number, i sorta did tell both of them about me to show that i do believe i am in their "league" both as my standing in society (sorta like im no bum without a job, but i prefer to do freelance work where im the boss and i only have to be resonsible for me, i think they both really enjoyed hearing that i busk and i did sorta tell them how much money you can get busking, i think they where also impressed with my many ideas for work, the apprenticeships i will be doing when i get a car and side odd jobs and things to get money, so i definately made them comfortable knowing im no "living at home still" freeloader who has no plans and no future (No ambition etc)))



do you have a gf or wife? just wondering....so i don't have to ask for an official "are you my girlfriend?" or "will you be my gf?" type of thing? i hope not, but still i would try, im just not sure how to hang out and do stuff as "friends" but still make sure she knows that i want more



well i am playing them, i would like sex, but i'd still settle for friendship, but at the same time i really wouldn't, know what i mean? i just want a gf by my side nowadays, i want to experience more and experiment too, i'd settle for friendship where i hang with them cos thats what my cousin does, and he has less trouble with girls so y eah



cheers for the luck man! what country you live in?

Phone numbers are not really anything to be excited about. If they answer, I guess it's something, but otherwise, they're just being polite. I had a girl give me her phone number once (without me even asking for it), we made plans to go on a date, and she never picked up or returned my calls. I think girls just like giving out their phone numbers.

please man dont spoil the little pride I get when getting a chicks number ha ha
maybe the chick that gave you her number forgot to get your number so when caller id
showed up she thought she;'s not gonna pick up to a stranger, alot of people I know aren't good with phones
(as in picking up) and i understand why someone would keep themselves from picking up the
phone when a strange or unknowing phone number pops up (did you or do you have your phone number set as keep private? if so she prob doesnt answer withheld id'd phone calls)

maybe try sending her a text saying hi its me _______(insert name) we met a while ago and you gave me your no., if you wanna talk again can you please give me your email address (or sumthing similiar) here's mine __________ (insert your email),.........hey just a thought man

one girls experience doesn't equate to every girl, so im sure I will get
lucky as I am starting to get really good at subtly introducing myself and sparking a flame of interest (both ways)

Im just worried that I'd intimidate a girl with my behaviours,
most of the time I don't mean it and I prefer to call my talking and body
language behaviour as being "Passionate", but im sure most take me the wrong way,
and they'd assume im some kind of crazy b*stard, it happened all through high school,
many people called me crazy and that was the only label i didn't challenge as at the time
I thought it was a type of respect to call someone crazy
(you know friends calling each other you "crazy mofo')
thats why it stuck and i ended up playing that role for some of the good effects
of people thinking you are crazy, but at the end of the day i was f*ked cos it
ruined my chances with soo many girls, i think i played the role a bit too well ha ha