Guys - Why do you want a woman in your life?

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every man has to have a reason or a motive to be with a woman. what's yours?
PLEASE BE HONEST!

I chose the first option.

I think most people would want a meaningful relationship. But it's hard to build that, so many settle for less.
For the time being I would just as soon be single, only because I don't feel I'm ready for a relationship.

The first option. Nothing else would be worth the effort. My prior relationships have all ended poorly, so this is theoretical for me. So for now I'm single, since I haven't been motivated to try again.

The first option.

Although I admit that a big part of it is a need of self validation so that I don't feel "worse" than others for not having gf, which is very easy for me to feel since I have AS so it is hard for me to make good impressions on ppl. Also, being lonely is part of the equation as well. Even without sexual things, female company makes me happy while male company doesn't.

I vote "none of the above". I'd want a woman in my life as a "convenience relationship". You know, so that I wouldn't have to look for a date when a social situation requires one. This would include situations like: company events, fine dining, dance lessons that require a partner, parties, and some religious services. I think someone on WP posted something about a relationship like this. While they didn't seem too happy with it, I'd say it's a perfect relationship, and I'm sure there are lot of people out there who get into a relationship for that same reason, although they may not be willing to admit it, even to themselves. But I am, and see nothing wrong with it either, as long as I'm being honest about my intentions to my partner. More likely than not, I'm sure there are girls out there who also want a "convenience relationship". No drama, no melodrama, just two people making each other's lives easier and giving each other some emotional comfort in this cold, harsh world.

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The first option.

In all honesty, it's nice to have a friend to come home to..

I'm interested in having a long term relationship someday.

I think a lot of the inexperienced guys here dont actually want a relationship but want the experience and respect that having relationships brings. When i first joined WP there were respected people who had had lots of relationships. Because they had had lots of relationships they knew a lot about human nature and how to deal with people/situations and lots of people came to them for advice. There relationships had not been happy, in lots of cases they had horror stories to tell about being abused and taken advantage of. But, they were looked up to and respected and seen as credible and worth listening too.
A lot of the adult virgins on the site were not taken seriously, not because they were virgins, but because they were immature, child-like people, the virginity was just a side effect of that, the fact that they were too child like for a relationship another black mark against anyone looking up to them ot taking them seriously. I think there was a lot of jealousy from them toward the people who had lots of relationships, not because they were jealous of the sex or the (often abusive) relationships, but because they were jealous of the experience and respect and people treating them like they were worldy-wise.

I'd have chosen the kid option, but that implied abandoning them. Wanting a meaningful relationship might prevent it from happening. Sometimes people who want these things rush the steps and burn the relationship out.

I chose the cooking option, because I can't make advanced dinners etc. I would love to have a relationship where my partner could make my food, clean the house, change my sheets, shop at the grocery store....... ANd I would be the one that would go to work

You forgot an option: because it hurts to be without one!

I'm telling you man, take $100 to a strip club and you'll find out everything you need to know about a relationship. Just go on a slow night, throw down $5-$10 in tips, then let them follow you around the entire night. It's their job to make you believe they want to have sex or a relationship with you, it's you job to let them think that you're really thinking about giving them some more of your money, it's all good fun.

same as any hUman to form a meaningful relationship.. you could mean why would i go out with one ... whic would be becuase it would hurt to much to be without the particular woman...

I used to think that but was told in no uncertain terms by an NT that I was very wrong, it was a bit of a shock learning that I'll tell ya.

Um, why do I want a woman in my life? Just to take my mind off the last one.

of course you can have meaningful relationships wih people... is there somthing stopping you or is it other people?