Relationship Ended

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Some of you might have noticed that I've gotten into a relationship. Well, it was a really tough decision to make, but I've finally decided to break up. I guess my hormones clouded my judgment in this matter. I'm still too young for things like relationships. I'm just hoping we can remain friends, and she doesn't take it too seriously.

Er yeah, that's pretty much it. :/

Here's something else I was thinking about: It's weird how people find it very obvious to only be in relationship with one person as opposed to several. I mean, why couldn't there be something like a ployamorous relationship? From an evolutionary point of view it makes sense because if people were in love with more than one person they might have, er, unwanted babies.

Funny how humans are.

I am sorry things didn't work out.

There are a few polyamourous people on here.

I think it's good that you tried though, Henriksson. The only way we can figure out what our limits are and how far we're able to push/grow/move past them is by testing them. Every experience brings a lesson. I've been going through some person stuff lately and that's become my mantra I guess.

So, although it ended, I think it was good that you tried. Nothing ventured, nothing gained and all that.

Look at it this way... you were actually in a relationship... that's more than I can say...

I'm sorry for you

jealousy is a big obstacle.

and pff, people claiming to not get jealous are just trying to appear noble, maybe with the exeption of VERY few.

i would never be able to handle a polyamorous relationship.

I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, Henriksson.

And what's Carlofirst's problem?

I read somewhere that monogamy is an advantage because then a couple is more likely to stay together long enough to raise a child, as opposed to just staying together long enough to conceive a child.

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wow that was fast!

eh, the power of hormones... that's exactly why I believe it's better to wait till your judgement is back to normal with getting yourself into one of those.

anyway, I'm sure you've learned your lesson. if you can manage a few people at once I say go for it, it might be fun to watch

I think you're very wise to make the decision you have, and to consider the other person's feelings. I was nowhere near that mature at 17. I really messed myself up over relationships because I thought I had to be in one. it's taken a long time for me to realize that sometimes it's better not to be in one. I love my current husband to pieces and we have an excellent relationship, but I don't think many people would have the patience for either of us. we have too many idiosyncrasies.

aaaaaaaahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha x'D
"I told you so" is something i could imagen you saying now, lol.


Wow, really......that wasn't even like a month.....no.... less than 2 weeks? LoL

Thats why when people do stuff like that, they should seriously consider things even before starting it, hormoes? Yeah, and then you also try to be abit reasonal/logical, and you can see if your hormones fail or not.

You shouldn't do crap like this if you dont have the determination from the start, and the will to get to the "finish" line

hey, the desire to mate doesn't spring from anything logical, and our programming doesn't necessarily help us pick a truly compatible partner. in general we're hard-wired with some counter-productive behaviors and our drive to act them out is highest when we're least emotionally capable of making logical decisions: our post-puberty teenage years into the early 20s. by mid-20s we're actually past our breeding prime so our hormones will cut us some slack.

cut people some slack for sharing most of their DNA with the rest of the animal kingdom.

Don't take the ending too hard Henriksson. At least you got to meet someone and briefly experience the romance for what it really was.

You're still young and full of um..hormones....

Please let people learn from their own experiences. It's fine if you want to give ample warning to a person beforehand, but if he doesn't want to listen, just drop it and move on. Rubbing it in and saying "I told you so" does nothing constructive. Admitting one's own mistakes and limitations is hard enough. He doesn't need you or anybody else to make it harder!

I'm well aware of the fact that people should also learn from their own mistakes, but from my point of view, what he attempted is like a random guy out of nowhere(no experience whatsoever) says he wantsto become president.....riiiight

Of course "Nothing is impossible", but sometimes being abit more reasonal dosnt hurt.
If he was thinking abit more logical he would have understood that what he was doing was not the wisest.
But again, like i said, nothing is impossible, but that dosnt mean you should throw away reason and logic.
Buuuuut in the end, if they both had been really serious, and went for the finish line, it would have worked.
But whatever~
He learned his lesson hopefully~

My two bits, taken from song lyrics.


M.