Which is worse?

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Family helpful (or at least trying to be) when it comes to introducing people they might find that share your interests, or family unhelpful?

Like, outside my one grandma and my mom, nobody's really taken any steps to try to introduce me to anyone that might share my interests. And even grandma couldn't get that right. Mom sorta did somewhat, but not much. Never anything about Transformers.

I suppose it says something about my brothers that they refuse to hang around anyone that's not neurotypical (though they won't put it in those terms), even though I'm POSITIVE my youngest brother is on the spectrum. The one brother is very close in age to me, so of course he'd be around people that are in teh 'right' age category for me. But that's where it ends. He refuses to introduce me to people he knows. All his friends from childhood on up didn't really like me to varying degrees. His best friend from childhood HATES me.

Even my sister, when she still lived in town, did nothing one way or the other. It's like they never got to know anybody that had anything in common with me. I certainly never 'stole' BFs from my sister, nor did her exes go for me if her and them broke up.

I dunno, part of me would appreciate the thought/effort if one of my relatives actually made the effort to locate someone with my interests (and they all know these interests perfectly well).

But somehow I get the idea that if I DID find someone with my interests, with help or no, my brothers would be merciless to them.

I would say the unhelpful scenario.

Depends on the person. Sometimes meeting one person with your interests can spark something.

If it weren't for the internets, I'd be positive that nobody in the world shared my interests.

As it is I'm positive nobody /in my town/-local area share my interests. I've never met people on the internet with my interests that turned out to be from my area.

Family is generally unhelpful. You'd think they'd be helpful as they know who you are and what you like - but for some reason, it's always colored through their lenses.

Family is definately good as a sounding board though, with a very large grain of salt.

I wouldn't really know, my family have never been pushy helpful, so I don't know how bad that would be.

But you can't really blame them for not finding anyone with an interest in Transformers, even out of people still interested in it few would admit it in person. The only link I could imagine is someone taking their kid to see the new films.