"Nice Guys": China versus USA

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I'm not necessarily trying to start another Mail-Order Bride thread, but what this man has to say about dating in the USA versus China has considerable truth.

People in China (of both genders) are generally seeking marriage partners who are well educated, responsible, family-oriented, etc. Good looks have considerably less importance than education. In China, "nice guys" have the clear advantage.

What he says about dating techniques in the USA is generally insightful, particularly the problems for the "nice guys."

From my observation, Chinese people tend to prefer to marry only other Chinese. Also, standards of beauty are a little different between China and the USA. In China, it is preferable for a woman to be on the chubby side. Many American men are attracted to the small, skinny types--which is considered unattractive in China. So, some Chinese people consider that it is only the ugly girls who marry Americans. But, from my experience, women in China, for the most part, are not going to go out of their way to marry an American--especially in Mainland China, where the ratio of men to women is definitely in the women's favour.


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As I mentioned in a few other threads, I really, really love women. But when I hear about women not liking nice guys, it makes me want to vomit. I really hope it's just a lie.

Praise be to those beautiful Asian girls.

It's American women who don't like nice guys. I've never had an American girlfriend.

I get the "wanting to appear different from the rest of the guys" thing. But I personally don't get who would want to date someone who comes off as a jerk & why would you want to even be friends with a jerk? That's why (among other things that helped me choose this) I've decided to permanently fly solo. Their would have to be a pretty extreme reason for me to change my mind. If nice= dull, than I don't know what you can do. But if nice= decent guy who doesn't act like a total jerk wad (acting all cocky/thinking they are the best thing on this planet, being rude & ordering the said girl around) I at the very least (& I'm sure some females prefer nice/decent guys) don't want to put up w/ crap. If you want to end up w/ someone nice (as a friend. partner or whatever) at least try to be nice.

Men outnumber women in China.

When I was in Taiwan, I got to know a very, very, very nice guy from England. He was nice almost to the point of being irritatingly nice.

He married a Taiwanese woman in Taipei--she was very very beautiful, and also very nice.

They've been married more than 20 years, and now live in London.

As a Chinese with American citizenship, I personally do NOT recommend an AS person to seek a potential wife from mainland China. A significant number of these women have the hidden agenda of obtaining a green card.. it's true that the majority don't but it's not worth the risk. Everything might be going well and you two might have great chemistry.. but on the day she receives her green card, she'll disappear without a trace, leaving only the divorce agreement on the dinner table. (And later, it'll turn out that she's already married in China and plans to bring her "real" husband to the US.)

And figuring out the "sheep" from the "wolves" isn't that straight forward and requires careful examination of her actions, intentions, moods, etc. - not the AS's forte.

Aint that the truth. The problem with this is the women (who are the slightest bit intelligent) recognize this. Within China it's to the women's advantage as they can pick/choose. I read a story where there's a scam where women will travel between villages marrying men and taking the presents/dowry and then disappearing.

Recognize this.

If you're comfortable going into a place with a horrible ratio, then more power to you. But you'll have a much better and comfortable shot someplace where the ratios are better, the culture more 'americanized' and the costs/risks are less.