I need to stop thinking about someone!

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I just met this boy a few months ago. He's really nothing special. He reminds me of me a little, because we have a similar sense of humor, that's all. The problem is, I can't stop thinking about him. He smiles at me and I feel myself first wondering what he's smiling at, then hoping he's smiling because he likes me. Oh and I didn't mention he's straight and I'm gay, so there's absolutely no point in thinking about this at all. I know he's not attracted to me, and I know because someone called him by my name once, and he got really mad and offended. The problem is I feel like I'm getting these signals that he likes me, but I know myself, and I misinterpret these signals A LOT. This always happens to me. No matter how hard I try I get "stuck" on a certain person for no reason. I researched this and for a NT it means you're in love....no I'm not in love. For someone with PDD it just means I have repetitive thought patterns and I can't switch them to something else. I know that there probably isn't anything I can do about it but at least I can write about it to people who understand. Anyone else have a similar situation they're dealing with? You don't have to be gay to answer lol.

For NT"s it is not necessarily "love" either - it is good old unadulterated LUST!

Before I met my wonderful husband, I used to get hung up on a particular person. Just a crush I suppose. I used to have them on my mind all the time. It probably was what you describe - a repetitive thought pattern.

Treat your acquaintance (who happens to be on your mind) with utmost courtesy and respect.

It is good that you have the self awareness that you have the potential to "misinterpret" signals. Acknowledge your thoughts about this person, but always remember that he is unavailable to you.

Try to make some time to get out in the world around you (away from this individual in question). The problem with having a repititive thought pattern, is that you won't notice a handsome, gay young man who IS available and interested in you.

Don't know if I should be answering this , seeing as i'm not currently dealing with this situation--I have a girlfriend.

I've had numerous crushes in the past, as in i've had a crush for almost every grade I was in back when I went to school. Even a crush every year in highschool.

I can tell you, its VERY easy to see what you want to see when you like a person. Signals can be very confusing, moods in people are both shallow and fickle.

I've never dated until after highschool and I can say I had a few girls who I thought liked me. Girls who'd come up to me and talk for no reason, a girl in my highschool junior year who asked me to sit next to her after we had a kickass conversation the day before. (I refused because I had a lack of confidence.) Even a girl at my old work place who teased the hell out of me, but offered me a valentines. I declined because i'm of course seeing someone but she kept trying to give me one >.>


There are numerous hints socially that can be misinterpreted and miscontrued, body language is often the key thing to go off of. Its not 100% but its the truest thing you can rely on when finding out who's liking you.


Another thing tho, sometimes there's still too much stigma even now when it comes to homosexuality for people to come out the closet, but people are getting more open with it nowadays.

As far as the nothing special comment tho..lol I hope thats true, because when someone doesn't like you the way you like them, its time to move on to better things.

Thanks you two. I know he wants to be my friend. He's obviously very friendly with me. He laughs at my jokes and asked for help with something once. The thing is I almost wish (not really) that he didn't like me at all, so there were no signals to read. I just want to stop thinking about him and he kind of won't let me. It would be so much easier if he totally ignored me (not that I really want that). Anyways, thanks again for the advice. I'll try my best to keep in mind that he's unatainable.

Lust is one of the anti-Christ's of romance.

Dustie...And yes, I do say this as if I am an all-knowing one but if you're reading this you may as well keep reading...

Two options, they require a bit of insight:
1: Your are most like a computer: This is the full-on Autism route. If this is the case it's likely you've got a crush on this guy but you can't "feel" it, it only seeps through in your focus(on HIM ) and you somehow fancy him in a way that diverts your gay-_-(Sorry, love is aether, this is likely, if a bit weird) Just...relax. Give in:P

2: You are most like an animal: This is the NT route. You're right. You don't have a crush on him, and you should just tell him to leave you alone more or he's gonna become annoying.


....Oh what wonders I could work if I knew you in person

/godmode off