Liking a girl with ADHD... so confusing

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So, basically there's this one girl who's in my class as well as my morning lab, whom I actually have taken an interest to. I think she may have taken an interest to me, seeing as how she sat next to me and chatted with me here and there. First time I met her, she out of the blue mentioned she hadn't taken her medication so she ws being very inattentive and hyper; she mentioned she had ADHD (after she told me that, I tried establishing a connection by mentioning I have ADD as well as Asperger's).

So a week and a half ago I asked her out for coffee and she agreed, saying we should go some day after our lab finished. So the next Monday (class on Mondays, lab on Firdays) I asked her, and she replied "We'll talk about it in the lab". So Friday came, and she didn't show up for lab. Now, she has missed lab before because she slept in too late (lab is at 8:30 AM lol).
Today I saw her and class. I saw her looking over at me a few times, but she didn't say anything. I didn't say anything either; I followed the advice from my sister and just decided to play it cool till this next Friday to talk to her about it again.
I can understand her not being lively in class on Monday and lively on Fridays though - she takes Concerta for her ADHD, which I know firsthand can turn you into a dull zombie (used to take it back in the day), and she doesn't take her meds for the lab

But still... I can't help but wonder if this girl is interested in me or not... if her not coming to lab last Friday was just a way of blowing me off, or if it was sheer coincidence of her having one of those cases of poor time management.

I'm doing my best to just go with the flow and not worry, but my natural reaction is to get worried. I'm trying not to screw up a potential relationship like I did with this one other chic a year ago.


Anyone have any thoughts or comments, or how dating girls who have ADD/ADHD act or behave, and what I should expect, and how an aspie like me might want to go about handling this?

I think you might be being a little paranoid here. I kinda know its hard to have self confidence when you have social deficits but blowing off class for you seems like an extreme conclusion to jump to. I'd go through the possibilities of maybe her getting sick, attending a funeral, car breaking down, or even sleeping in late again before even considering that if I were you.

I've questioned whether I had ADD myself.. my cousin has ADHD but he's a guy. I can tell you before
he was medicated, he got on my nerves. Very hyper, over imaginative, lied on me to our parents constantly, woke me up when I was sleeping every time he slept over (Intentionally), that about half covers it.

When he got medicated and got older he was cool, talkative, friendly, still imaginative and a much nicer person.

I can't give you any specific advice on that , idk any girls with ADHD. I would further go on to say you can play it cool and still talk to her, I mean follow up with trying to get to know her better and then go and ask her out for coffee again.

While it isn't imo, totally realistic she skipped class, yeah might not have been all that into your coffee idea. Unfortunately the people who we like, don't always like us. Don't jump to conclusions tho, play it cool by being her friend for a little while longer and then approach the coffee thing again.

Also do not take people sitting next to you and talking to you as interest, unless there was something more to what you were saying--she could've just been being friendly. (Which is not to say she didn't like you, because she obviously thought you were normal enough to sit next to)