Attracting who I'm not attracted to / putting off those I am

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I find it easier to interact with people that I'm not romantically attracted to.
It doesn't sound like a weird thing - I know people tend to get nervous around attractive people - but the way that it has affected me has been a problem in the past.
I think my ease in being kind/having relaxed fun with people that I'm not romantically interested in is why, in the past, several friends (who happen to be bisexual/lesbians - and, for the record, I'm completely fine with their lifestyles - homosexual love and attraction is as perfectly natural/good as heterosexual.) have 'fallen' for me. It's made situations awkward in the past.

I'm naturally more open around people that I feel no pressure around. So, I guess I give off an 'interested vibe' around them.
But when I actually am interested in someone, I tend to become more shy, even if they seem interested in me as well, thus giving off a seemingly 'uninterested vibe'.

Does anyone else have these issues? Or any input? Any advice would be wonderful and greatly appreciated. (:

I don't have advice but I'll just say I have been exactly the same way, so you are not alone. It's more of a problem when people you like but are not interested in dating think you are available. I am frozen around people I'm attracted to.

I'm the same. I have lots of friends. Lots and lots. Some of my best friends are women.

But if I find someone attractive... forget it. She'll run.

*Joins the party*

I've got coffee and homemade sangria...

Let's party then! Oh wait I'm still at work another 30 minutes.

I'm so going to stop by a coffee house and get a french press kona and a really big evil sugary pastry.

I meant, I'm bringing the coffee and the homemade sangria to our party. Feel free to bring some healthy snacks!

Nuts? Carrot sticks? Rice crackers? Would those work? They are healthy!

All of the above would work just fine. Avoid baked goods (cookies), fatty foods, processed meats, and refined sugar.

Five more minutes before I break my own advice and go get a giant blueberry scone.

Hey, a giant blueberry scone once in awhile won't kill you.

Yeah. The evening after work ended up being all about a lemon loaf (no scones!! !!), a cup of Sumatra, and an hour of kicking Orc ass on my laptop. Then I went home, changed, and ran for about an hour.

All in moderation...

Sorry for derailing your thread, Jaejoongfangirl. No harm intended, just some silly fun.

Now, where were we?