What's the best way to ask a girl out?

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I'm 14, she's 12. I know it's a bit of an age difference but most adult relationships have a larger one so I believe it's fine. Problem is I don't know how to ask her out. I understand I've asked a few questions about how to tell and stuff but I am quite literally CLUELESS. Any advice?

The biggest problem with this is not the age, but the maturity change between those ages. Kids are exposed to a lot more once in high school, recieve a lot more freedom and responsibilities, begin hitting puberty etc. The fact and she hasn't had this physical/mental development means there is a big difference between you and her in the eyes of others, and I'd worry about her parent's reaction.

A lot more once in high school, what about intermediate (year 7 and . Then again mine was a mix of intermediate and college so I may have been exposed to a bit more. Begin hitting puberty? I disagree with that one. I started before I even went to intermediate or in year 7 some time, can't quite remember. Also what she's exposed to isn't that different. She was put up a year. I guess there might be a bit of a difference though. One more point, I know her parents. They like me, think I'm pretty decent. We get along. Still if it is too much of a difference I'll wait. What age is idea then?

I don't see too big of a problem with the age difference. Girls mature faster than boys, and also he might have just turned 14 and she may be about to turn 13. My oldest daughter started dating her boyfriend when she was 13 and he was 16, so it really depends on the kids. They are still together btw, and she's 16 and he's about to turn 20.

What I would do is invite her to go to a school event, or something at your church or house of worship like a kids event, or a football game at the school, or if you have already secured a parent for a mode of transportation and finance, then to the movies or skating or somewhere like that.

The actual asking would go like this "Would you go to the ball game with me?" Or just put in whatever event your wanting to take her to. Ifshe says yes, then you got a date. If she says no and tells you a reason and it's not something that puts a stop to the idea right then (I have a boyfriend, My parents wont let me date till I'm 16, I want to be a nun) then just say "Ok, maybe another time". Then WAIT ONE WEEK, MAYBE TWO and ask her to another date. If she says no that time, and it's not something like her grandmother just died, then I would just let it go.

BUT the first thing I would do before asking her out is talk to her on the phone. I'd start out with talking on the internet, then move up to texting then call her on the phone. Just say "can I have your phone number so I can call you sometimes?". Now, at your ages its perfectly ok to call her that night. Because she will be expecting it.

OK, good luck!!

PaganMom

First, find a common interest you share with her. Try to base an event around that, and at that age, definitely keep it casual for the first few dates.

Wording will be important as well. You'll need to indicate your intentions without coming on too strong. If the first date goes well, keep it at "I think I have feelings for you". It allows some display of feelings without overbearing, which is a big problem for Aspies.