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Xenu
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11 Nov 2009, 10:36 pm

ok so im 16 and my best friend (who is of the opposite sex) is 18. we have been friends since my freshman year of high school. im now a junior and she just graduated last year. and ive always had strong feelings for her. ive been their for her through 2 terrible relationships shes had since ive known her, and now shes single. ive told her i had feelings for her about last year while she was still with her ex boyfriend. and she just responded that she views me as a friend. but when she broke up with her ex (about a month later) she started asking to hang out alot more and wed talk all through 4th period (the one class we had with each other last year) and get in trouble the majority of the time for talking. she then decided to write me a note during class that said "im starting to like you <3" i then got super uncomfortable not knowing what to do and basically shut down in class and then just left school. and then i thought that i had just ruined my chance of ever being with her. so we just i guess remained friends until about now. she considers me her best friend too. but now that shes graduated high school its become harder to hang out. and now she keeps asking to hang out and stuff. i hung out with her on halloween because she wanted to go around her neighborhood and get candy (which i didnt really want to do but i did it just to hang out with her. and she keeps asking me to go to movies with her. and now shes asking me to go to new moon with her and i dont know what to do. because i hate twilight and im starting to feel like stopping the friendship because whenever im around her im always nervous and dont know what to do or say and always make myself look weird around her and my depression always kicks in too. idk what to do. should i try asking her if she has feelings for me or what? or should i just continue to be just a friend?

(also i don't necessarily want a sexual relationship i just want to be with her as more then just her weird best friend...)



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11 Nov 2009, 10:41 pm

Have you tried inviting her to do things you'd both enjoy? That's a good way to handle not liking her suggestions about things to do together.