cats vs dogs, and the type of people us guys date

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Note, the folowing is total generalizations, stereotypical, and not meant about anyone in particular!

The connection between the pets we have, and the type of person we are attracted to seems to be very similar. I have been sort of following the partterns of the type of women many of the fellow NT men that I know on a daily basis are attracted to, and desire as companions. This, along with their likeness of cats versus dogs as pets.

The pattern I have noticed is that most NT men are basically attracted to what I like to call the "dumb bimbo" type female. These women are what I like to say are very attractive, and are in the relentless persuit of being attractive, and pleasing to others. They in total need of support from not just a male companion but human support on a whole for both emotional and physical support of their lives. This typical female to be desired is an emotional roller coaster of what to me appears to be serious Bi-polarism. The desired women go from emotional highs, to upset and sobbing at an amazing speed. Aspie guys like myself need not apply due to the fact that even the slightest wrong thing out your mouth will have her deep in an emotional crisis. For example of the "ultimate NT guy's girl", I know of many men that go crazy over Gwen Stefani, the lead singer of No Doubt, who convey's a "baby girl" type attitude. While she displays herself as a sex symbol with revealing clothing, and heavy makeup , and heavily stylized hair, the personality she attempts to display is the innocent little girl who's dependant upon everyone else. This attitude is reflected in her signature song "Just a girl"

I have noticed too that this attitude translates into what the typical NT male likes as a pet. This is amost always going to be a dog. NT men almost always have an inborn hatred of cats for some reason. Well, let's look at these two animals a bit more closely. A dog is a pack, social animal, and depends on it's peers to live. Because of this, dogs are easily trained to obey, and are almost always craving for attention. Cats OTOH do pretty good on their own, but definitely don't mind attention. In fact, the way feral cats live quite well in urban areas is proof that cats do quite well on their own. Apparently, NT men enjoy having beings under them that will be obedient to them and depend on them for support, and that beings that are independant are not a companion, but are instead competition.

As an Aspie however, my tastes in the female of the species tends to shift more towards brains than beauty. Sure, attractive women are nice to look at, but when it comes to really sparking my interest in a lifelong mate, brains are what really turns me on. I like to use Alanis Morisette as an example as a polar opposite of Gwen. She's the type of girl that I am really interested in. Alanis has a very strong, assertive personality, and is very independant, and intelligent to boot! Her appearance to me is simple, yet very attractive. Long flowing dark hair very little, if any makeup, and very basic, plain clothing and in fact eschews fashion and fad. Her assertive, personality, of course shows in many of the songs she writes. She has a great sense of humor, which of course showed in her song "ironic".

I was watching Myth-Busters Thursday night on one of the rare occasions I have the TV on, and fell in love. As a typical Aspie, I cannot remember the gal's name, but was quite impressed to see her out there working on the machinery when they were building the "boom lift trebuchet". She got gasoline in her eye, but she didn't run away crying, and leave the project. She went inside, washed it out, and was in fact impatient over how long she had to do it. She was then right back out there working again. What really turned me on was when I saw her welding....I can't even weld! Other women that have sparked my interest over my years are Pat Benetar, and Melissa Ethridge (yes, I know she's a lezzie...but she was hot in those videos riding that Harley in leather!) Most girls I know wouldn't even touch a greasy, noisey motorcycle!! !

Okay, so I hope I didn't sound too sexist or "male pig" in this posting, but needless to say after reading that, I'm a cat guy! I am curious what the concensus is concerning the personalities that turn you on too.

I am a cat guy too, and I have a knack for falling in love/having a crush on girls who I later find out to ne lesbians or bi-sexuals (not that there's anything wrong with that )

P.S. skinny girls are evil (unless they're skinny because they can't help it)

I had a problem for having crushes on lesbos. I dunno why, but watch out for those type of girls.

Hunter

Hmmm.... I think I am more of a dog person. Cats are too unstable and fickle for me. Neither a cat nor a dog could ever be considered my equal so I figure it is better to pick the one that is more loyal or obedient.

Yeah, when picking a woman I do prefer one that is intelligent over good looking. Stupid people make me sick and I literally hate women's fashion. At one point I developed a loathing and outright disgust towards women's earrings. I could not bear to even look at a woman's earlobes because of this disgust for a while. I just see most women's fashion as completely unnatural and disgusting, it is weird too that I get so repulsed by it.

I lurv Kari on Mythbusters, but I forgot the name of the one that did the welding.

As for the lesbian thing back in high school I asked this girl out to prom, but she would later turn me down and I wasn't certain why. Then a year later she got a buzz cut and started acting "butch" and I was like "oh....oops".

a couple years I started liking a girl, then I figured she was a lesbian so I stopped my in vane advances, then a couple years later I found out she actually wasn't a lesbian.

Hoo boy I think we found a thread here...I too am a cat guy who finds myself all too often getting attracted to lesbians. I guess it's going to happen when you work in a pub known for its gay clientele of both genders. Thing is that I find that lesbians seem to feel very comfortable with me...I have quite a few lesbian friends, including my housemate. You've heard of a "fag-hag"; I guess I must be a "dyke-bloke."

First off, thank you for mentioning Alanis; this thread will stick you in my mind. Unfortunately she's now blonde! ((I mention this because I'm obsessed a bit with Alanis and it was like finding out there is no Santa, only this time I'm not three and I actually care.))

Second off, that's an interesting theory. I wonder what it says about my boyfriend, who's Aspish but not definitely Aspie. He likes cats and hates dogs. I'm somewhat smart (yeah, everyone thinks they're smart, so I can't really back that up save for grades, test scores and such which might mean sh-- in actuality; oh, and don't judge my intelligence because I can't type for crap), but also very mood-swingy-y. With your theory it's like the two sides were integrated, which by no means proves it but is a very interesting coincidence.

I'm definitely more of a dog person. I love everyone until they give me a really good reason not to.

Oh, and Serissa - I don't think I'm smart. You, on the other hand, are very smart. (Not that I expect you to care what I think or anything.)

Most guys have a paternalistic nurturing instinct, and some women manipulate their behavior to take advantage of that. At extremes, it's called histrionic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder. What you described sounds like a mixture of those two personality styles.

I looked up both disorders, and while I may have some traits of each one, neither one really fits me to a "T".

Keep in mind that it takes a LOT for someone to get on my bad side, and even then, I still can't help seeing some good in those people. There's one person who I became really upset at because of the way he handled a conflict, and I also know that he's behaved similarly with other people, but in spite of that, I still don't feel like completely breaking off the friendship.

Also, perhaps I was exaggerating when I said that I "love" everyone. Perhaps what I should've said is that I primarily see good in everyone.

By the way, I like cats too, but overall I just feel more attached to dogs.