THIS can't be normal, even for an Aspie

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It seems everyone has a type. Or a set of types. Types, in this case, are those of the opposite gender (or same if one is homosexual) that they are attracted to.

So heres my problem. I know what my type is. I am a little concerned.

I seem to fall for, for lack of a better summery: The crazy bi-polar emo psycho chicks. Yes, I realize there is so much that is wrong with phrasing it like that, but it's the best I can do for a summery like this.

Lets break it down:

Crazy: I seem to like the girls who are abit, well, crazy. I don't mean adventurous types or anything (though that can be it too). I mean the blow up the house with a smile on your face crazy. *shudder*

bi-polar/emo: Lets group these. Many female I have been interested in seem to turn out to either be bi-polar types that change mood quickly (really bad for an aspie) and/or self harmers. Great.

Psycho: As in you wake up (or rather don't) in the morning with a knife in your chest. AKA, she goes nuts and kills you for no reason. *cringes*

If you need an example, the best I can give is an Anime Character From Black Lagoon, Revy. See and only minus the cigarette (can;t stand them) and remove the guns. If you have ever seen the show, you know the type I mean...

So now I have to ask. Why. I like to consider myself semi-sane and without a death wish. Yet these are the girls I fall for. Sometimes it's not all three things, but often it's close.

I asked my mother (of all people) what she thought. She said I may have "Savior Complex". I am not even going to explain that one. I don't want it.

Man, I wish there was a semi-normal (not a crazy emo psycho) female around me age in my area who was single and who liked me. Thats asking allot though >.>

Looks like you and I have two things in common.

1) We study Japanese martial arts
2) We're both drawn to bipolars

I'm done with bipolars, though. Lesson learned. It never leads anywhere good.

Are you attracted to these types, or are these the types of women you are attracting/ getting attention from? Big difference.

I'm married to a bi-polar. She's not really emo though she has a certain aesthetic, and she tends to do some rapid cycling, but it could be way worse.

Its me to them. Most don't show any interest it me, but I am used to rejection

@monsterland - Yes, because I WANT to be attracted to crazies >.> (also what martial art?)

@Shadwell - I am glad its working out. I have nothing against people with Bi-polar at all, but they tend to be difficult to deal with sometimes.

I think a lot of guys are attracted to girls with problems. Maybe we just see that they have problems and figure that we can identify with them or that our potential mates would have to have some kind of problem in order to be attracted to us. It can work the other way around too.

Hmm, interesting theory. I will ponder this.

I will say though another odd thing is many of the females I have like who turn out to be this "type" I have no clue about the "problems" until after I know them. It's like I have a radar in my head when I go into a room. I see a girl I like (since first site is based on appearance) and sometimes talk to them. And then I find out the rest. Suck.

Well, a lot of attraction is also chemistry.

Then my "chemistry" is f****d.

You posted in the Aikido thread, remember

Yes, saying how I would advise TSD over Aiki. But I remember now. I take it your an Aikido person. My dad and his friend both did it, with said friend achieving traditional black belt (in the white/black system). My dad's cousin is 5th dan (maybe 6th now?) and owns I think the largest dojo in LA for it.

Maybe it's just an Aikido thing. I do Aikido as well and have met lots of "interesting" persons... myself included I guess ><

But I don't do Aikido...

Most of these females in question were met at school(s)

Vincent, can you tell us what about these girls draws you? Ie. do they seem like psychic lightning rods and to be shining/glowing brighter than everyone else around them? Do you need brightly lit and intense personalities so as not to be bored or is it something else altogether? Identifying this will at least help you realize what's happening as it happens.

i fit the crazy bi-polar/emo psycho bill pretty well
no offense meant, but i don't really see how anyone, girl or guy could be attracted by a nutcase girl like me, even though my bf and i have been together for almost a year

and what's a savior complex? like, wanting to save someone from their self kind of thing?

Yes, that is savior complex. The google definitions don't fit the term >.> Basically it means I somehow am drawn to these people with problems and want to help them even at my own expense.