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Hello, I am gifted young man who has increditible amount of intellectual gifts but is having a hard time finding love. I feel quite despressed by this but not sucidle. I am very sick of my lack of connection with the opposite sex. I tend to like few people though I am always polite to anyone who comes my way. I live in a small town, and although there is a much larger city a 45 min drive from here but that town also lacks a lot of opportunites for anything really. I love writing, it is my passion and I also love medicine, in time I hope to become a great doctor and save many lives. I don't have a problem with touching in any which is very unusual for people like me as I sure you know well. However no matter what I just can't find anyone, it very depressing. Not one person I've ever met has any similar goals or ideas or anything when it comes to the opposite sex. They tell I shouldn't look but I dunno, I wanna at least know that if I don't meet someone I would like to be in environment that have people who are "honest" about what they like to do and not just pretend because they want to be my girlfriend. I drink but only socially, a mate of mine got doing that bringe stuff but I found it very boring because even after several drink I did not feel drunk even one little (I don't know why). I don't like clubs not because of loud noise or anything, it is because I generally run into to some really nasty people that I would rather stay away from but hey maybe just because of the small city. I am quite socialable and like by many. I really don't like blind dates and tend not like it when people recommend such and such because I generally find that they aren't my type as they so put it. Sigh. I really don't what to do, I'm tired of talking to therpist who doesn't give me one bit of advice other than wait or something like that which makes kinda why I even bother paying in the first place. Please if anyone can help I would really appreciate it.

you have to search for places were there are girls who are like-minded. If you say you like medicine you should take a walk in the med school and look for the girls over there. Maybe you will find someone who you can talk to over there and the probability of meeting someone with the same goals as you are higher. Med schools are difficult so the Pr(metting someone inteligent)=high, I mean in mathematical notation the probability of you metting someone who is intelligent is high. You said you have intellectual gifts so a similar girl might fit you well. You can also look for girls in medicine pre-courses, at libraries, or other colleges such as maths colleges. There are many girls in the maths course cause they intend to become teachers and they're also very smart. You should begin with small talk like saying something about the weather or about the place you're at and then progressively move to more interesting topics. When talking to someone don't go on thinking if that girl will be the love of your life or not just enjoy the moment, that also helps.

I hope this hints help you a little

Wedge gave you great advice. Ever thought of joining MENSA? There's lots of smart women there. How about a social group of young people interested in medicine and/or science? How about an internship (volunteering) in something related to medicine?

In order to meet people, you have to put yourself in social situations with them - and there are all kinds of social situations other than bars and clubs. The neat part about joining social activities geared toward your interests is that you'll actually enjoy the activity, whether you meet somebody immediately, or if that takes a little time. And if you join several groups, you increase your chances. Good luck.