Does 'Go Out' mean anything else?

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Hey everyone,

As reported in another thread I have been going out fairly regularly with a girl. Now, since this is normally twice a week or more (for quite some time, maybe 6 weeks or so) my friends have put in the notion that I am dating her.

Last week I asked her if she would like to 'go out properly' with me and she said yes
In the UK, isn't it that 'go out' a euphimism for dating?
Should I ask her when I see her again if this is what she meant? I mean, I am not yet sure about quite the exact status of our relationship. I would be very happy to be dating her since she is a lovely person (smart, caring and funny), and when we went out last week we met some of my friends who all think the same thing.

Should I just outright say something like, 'We've been friends for a while now. I appreciate our friendship. You are smart, caring and funny. I'd like our relationship to become a dating one'
Does this sound a little bit strange? It just has a sort of 'stilted' tone to it (is that the correct word?) It's not how I speak normally and I'm not sure that I can say it easily in a situation.
Is there another way to do this properly?

Thanks a lot

I think after one "go out" is considering dating. Other than that I got nothing as I'm not very knowledgeable in this field.

It's always better to say exactly what you mean in these situations, otherwise how do you know?

For example, she might think you're dating exclusively now. Or she might think you're dating non-exclusively now. Or any number of other shades of meaning.

I've always gone with something like, "I never know how to interpret these things, so here's what I'd like to have happen...How do you feel about that?" Said in a cheerful, no-pressure tone, I never had anything but good results.

Oh all through my middle school people kept sayin hes going out with her and i always said where are they going to? and everyone seemed confused Well your the ones who said they were going out!! ! but to where!!?? I think i got asked out and i thought we had to go to the park or somewhere??! ! until i think after years of confusion i guess i summed up that "going out" means dating.

I always thought Go Out meant out on a date because that was what I would hear on TV and it always meant a date.


I have never heard these words being used for anything else except for dating such as "They're going out" meaning they're dating.

"Going out" means dating, at least in the part of the US where I live. But in the recent years, this term has become somewhat outdated after the mid 90's. When talking about other people, they generally say "dating" or "seeing each other" for casual dating, "are together" for more serious relationships, and "hanging out" or even "kicking it" for friends-with-benefits situations. When asking someone out, phrases "go out with me" and "go on a date" are generally not used (they're seen as too formal). Instead, it's more common to say "go [do whatever activity]", and the date is generally implied, unless one or both parties are already in the friend zone.

The girl has "gone out" with you a dozen times or more.

By modern standards this means that she is ready and more than ready to have sex with you. Otherwise she would have burned you off weeks ago.

What are you waiting for?