Calling girls.

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I don't know when I'm supposed to, so err on the side of not enough, and I get signs that I should more often. (So I'm doing what all the "bromance" movies suggest.)

There's one girl who has said several times I can call her any time. I know that doesn't literally mean any time, but I probably should call her. I've texted her a few times since this, but I haven't called for some reason.

Another girl I had a date with on Sunday, and she said she wanted to hang out again, but I'm not sure when to call her either.

And there's another I know online who randomly calls me once in a while, but I don't know when/if I should call her.

I just worry about being creepy.

spontanious affection is always charming, Electricbassguy. Calling her on the spur of the moment and just tell her you are thinking of her. Pick some silly time . . say a quarter to ten, AM or PM and call her three days in a row at the same time. then make it 'your time' by checking in with her at that time every day. Have something interesting to say, and ask her a question, or mention a sunset you saw, or a little joke, or ask her to meet you at 5:17PM at the coffee shop and have hot cocoa with little marshmallows, or hot apple cider.

These things are endearing, thoughtful (and affordable.) It also gives a time to get to know each other. Then you can figure out if you want to keep calling her, and she can figure out of she wants you to keep calling her. Try your own ideas but keep the contact pretty consistiant, so she gets comfortable with you communicating to her. Good luck!

Just call them when you feel like it, but don't do ALL of the calling. Let them call you too.

You have 3 potential girl friends, so you're probably AWESOME, not creepy.

You're overcompensating. Creepy is 5 times a day, unless you're engaged or married. Going on a date on Sunday with the girl saying she would like to go out again, then leaving it almost a week with nothing, definitely spells "not really interested".

Too much is better than not enough.

I don't know if I am too interested in the girl I had a date with... she seems really nice, but I feel more friendship not romance

It really depends on the individuals. Some women don't want you to call them, ever. These are the ones who don't even want a second date. Then, there are those who want you to call right after.

Your best bet is to do what other men do, make a guess. If you want to be safe, make it the day or two after the date.

I'd agree with the call once a day at the same time of day. Once a day isn't too much. And don't be afraid to call her the day after a date.

you may be 'safe' but it sends a message to the girl that you really didn't care much about the date, that you have a lot of other things that are more important to do with your time than call someone you just had a great time with and want to get to know. Also, men that wait days after calling the girl they had a date with AND WERE INTERESTED IN getting to know them better are sending conflicting signals by waiting. It always seemed to my girlfriends they had to make arrangements with the other girls they were seeing to fit you in somewhere.

Others just chalked it up to a guy that was arrogant and only thought about his self.