The importance of choice in a relationship

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philbuch
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29 Jan 2010, 7:57 am

Hello guys!

I'm wondering about how someone should choose his partner in a relationship and based upon which criteria ?

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29 Jan 2010, 8:34 am

Phil, everyone's different. You're going to have to find your own criteria I'm afraid.



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29 Jan 2010, 8:57 am

It all depends what you like about a person. You can use that as a basis for your criteria, such as do they have to be sporty or not? Do they have to be into the same type of music as you? Do you prefer a calm or sedentary person, or perhaps a more hedonistic, spontaneous person? Are you offended easily by certain types of jokes, remarks or sarcasm or are you an easy-going person who isn't offenede that easily? If you are easily offended you may want to go for someone who isn't likely to say such offensive things. Or if you are not easily offended, then you may want to go for someone similar so that you are not feeling you have to constantly watch what you say. I could go on, but at the end of the day, it is entirely up to you what your criteria is.



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29 Jan 2010, 9:00 am

I don't think that making choices based on other people's criteria is wise.


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29 Jan 2010, 10:49 am

Boobs. :D

Joke. :?

Every person has their own criteria, that's just the way it works. Generally, it should be someone you know you get along with. I'm taking an ASL class, and it strikes me that I could try to hook up with a deaf/HOH person that wouldn't complain about my music preferences. 8O


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29 Jan 2010, 1:59 pm

Ok, thanks for all of your answers!
Since that was my first post, do you believe it was right ?
How was the title ? The question ?
Let me know, thanks.



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29 Jan 2010, 8:03 pm

I'm thinking that I always think it's destiny and we have known each other in other lives and then it ends up being that they are just dysfunctional in the same way my parents were/are.

I think you should caluculate some baseline unacceptable behavior and then leave the rest open.

Like, no crackheads, no (current) prostitutes, etc...