I cant seem to find the right girl........

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I need some advice....

for years ive been trying to find the write girl to be with. being an aspie is hard and its even harder to get a girl. there was a girl that I thought i was in love with but she just wrote me a nasty letter back and I didnt get it cuz we were good friends too. I need to find the right girl but i cant seem to do it. Its really tough being lonely And i do Have girls that like me there good looking and nice but they are ..... u know....

Any advice ?

thanks

All you can really do is express your interest and hope you don't get shot down in flames. Don't expect anything, infact expect them not to like you, that way you don't get shattered hopes when they enivitably reject you. I know this it happens to me a lot.

I can't find the right guy or girl. Being bi doesn't increase your chances, it just doubles the confusion and the hurt.

I don't know why I still try, but I always make it known if I like someone, unless they're with someone else. Even tho there's prolly a 110% chance that every girl I like is straight and every guy I like just wants to try and score me. I still try.

I used to write these really florid, make-you-puke kinda love-letters to girls and send 'em songs and stuff... Never really worked... Until I connected with this one girl, Beth, from LA. But see I blew that too cause we went to Cornell together and lived in the same dorm. First damn night I was there I called her room. BAD IDEA. Tried to apologise. Just made it worse. Then someone drugged me with mescaline I think and I thought I got her pregnant. IT WAS A MESS! She contacted me last semester the day after I got crucified by my genetics final and it really weirded me out... cause there had been a restraining order on me up to that point. I had been arrested after hitting up the nuthouse for a few days and I had to get a shark to do the legal crap for me.

Fast forwarding to right now. I almost-sorta proposed to her the other day. It's been radio silence ever since I told her about the gruesome details of my appendectomy I had recently. Don't really know why. Guess I shoulda probably just kept that to myself. But I wanted her to know she was all I could think about during and after my surgery when I was in SO MUCH pain. Anyway good luck man there's gotta be some one out there for you. There are like 7 billion folks in the world... So someone's out there. All I can really say is take it SLOW. Ignore her. Make it look like you've got more important crap to do...

Be well and be safe,
Ben

You definitely need to find a girl who loves you for you, and everything about you. A girl who will accept you for your flaws as well. And you for her. Maybe find a girl who has an interest like yours. Maybe find a girl that has a great personality. That when those awkward times come up, she doesn't get embarrassed or angry. I hate when my social awkwardness makes people angry and they yell at me. So I found out when you find that special someone or just a friend that are cool with it and help or just don't turn to a jerk, that's a good person to have in your life.

When you talk to a girl, be you don't try to be someone your not. If you just walk up to a girl, or online. If online, talk to her get to know her, if you like what you know and she does too, maybe move to the phone before meeting. Tell the girl about you and ask her questions, let her do the same about you. Let her get to know the real you and all the quirks you have, even she will have some of her own.

I mean it might not sound easy, but sounding interested in her, and letting her she herself to you and you do the same. Maybe 20 questions. I usually ask guys I am talking to if they would accept/date a girl who has a learning disability/disability, or a question like that. I have gotten guys saying no. Which I respect that, but I wait to I find that guy that says yes or maybe he will just have to see.

Takes awhile to find the one who will like you for you, I am still searching so I know.