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Just got to get this out of my system

1) It is wrong to dump/chuck/end a relationship with someone by text message or SMS

2) It is wrong to end a relationship when you haven't even seen the person since you started going out/ dating (im not including long-distance relationships because I'm unsure about those)

(both these happened to my poor friend yesterday)

3) It is wrong to tell everyone that your boyfiend needs viagra- despite being only 17 and has failed to get it up on more than one occasion

4) It is wrong to cheat on your boyfriend...then send flirty messages to the person you cheated with after your boyfriend has forgiven you

5) It is wrong to tell your friends about how many times/how you got sex/oral sex/lovebites (and where those lovebites are)

6) It is wrong to lie about whether you used protection

7) it is wrong to claim to be bi-sexual when you are NOT.

(and all that relates to another 'friend')

In questions 1 and 2, it depends on the situation, but most of the time, I'd say yes that dumping someone by text messenger is, if not wrong, mean.

The rest of them...I agree it's wrong. I'd say that is not nice at all. It's actually quite cruel and uncomfortable for the people around the individual who did this.

Well, this is just my opinion, but I can be rather opinionated about this sort of thing

1. Usually, yes. In person is best, if not that, then by phone, probably. But I suppose it might be necessary in unusual circumstances.

2. No. It's never wrong to end a relationship if you don't think you should be in it. Though, one should try to use as much tact and compassion as possible (while still making it clear that the relationship is over).

3. YES!! ! That's a terrible thing to say about someone. It would probably embarrass the person terribly. Considering he's only 17, most likely the problem is psychological and further embarassment would only do more harm. I'm a girl, so I've never actually had that problem, but still... that's just wrong.

4. Yes. If you've cheated and you've said the cheating is over then flirting is just asking for trouble and will (most likely) make the significant other more jealous/insecure.

5. It depends. It should be discussed with your significant other first about what types of things should remain "private."

6. Yes. There could be severe consequences if protection isn't used and that would be promoting distrust in the relationship.

7. I would say it's wrong because it's a lie... I'm not quite sure why that person would tell a lie like that. It confuses me. But I would say, generally, yes. If he/she's simply confused about his/her sexuality or experimenting, that's a different story.

Last edited by Unico on 12 Aug 2004, 3:46 am, edited 1 time in total.

MY OPINION (even though I never had a relationship):

1. Yes, because, after all, they might think it's somebody else using your name in there.

2. No.

3. Yes. That Viagra stuff is personal and may be embarrassing.

4. That one's kind of confusing, so I'll go with yes.

5. Yes. That's just plain weird.

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7.

Mich

They don't sound like people i'd want to be with.

As for being bi, people really do get these things wrong sometimes. It can be a very confusing thing and if they really are confused that shouldn't be held against them. Lying on the other hand, get attention or for whatever reason, is wrong.

The thing I don't get is how to act around my guy friends if he has a girlfriend (I'm a girl, by the way, so as not to get people confused). I don't know how friendly I can be, or what I can or can't say, or what might be construed as flirting. My friends tell me I flirt when I don't think I'm flirting, and I'm worried about this around my guy friends with girlfriends, so I usually either drop them or stop talking to them so much.

1) It is wrong to dump/chuck/end a relationship with someone by text message or SMS

YES

2) It is wrong to end a relationship when you haven't even seen the person since you started going out/ dating (im not including long-distance relationships because I'm unsure about those)

NO

3) It is wrong to tell everyone that your boyfiend needs viagra- despite being only 17 and has failed to get it up on more than one occasion

YES

4) It is wrong to cheat on your boyfriend...then send flirty messages to the person you cheated with after your boyfriend has forgiven you

YES

5) It is wrong to tell your friends about how many times/how you got sex/oral sex/lovebites (and where those lovebites are)

NO

6) It is wrong to lie about whether you used protection

YES

7) it is wrong to claim to be bi-sexual when you are NOT.

YES! GOd people that do this annoy me.

This one is easy. Just be nice enough for them to respect you, but don't do anything that might resemble flirting. This includes standing less that 2 ft. apart, any unnecessary touching (giving your hand to help them get up is OK), smiling too much when talking to them, overly flattering compliments, etc.

Personally, I always found it a bit confusing on how to act around a friend's girlfriend or a girl he just started dating. (I'm a guy, by the way.) So I guess the above tips came from the "rules" I made from myself by trail-and-error over the years. More often than not, the friend's girl acted really sweet, which totally threw me off: is she simply a nice person or is that her way of showing interest?

Yeah I get thrown off by that, too.

My opinions:

1) I agree this method of dumping someone really sucks

2) Why would you go out with someone you're not going to see?

3)Yep this is very wrong

4) Another very wrong thing to do

5) Hmmm depends on how much detail you go into, if its a case of naming names and too much info then yes its wrong

6) This is definitely wrong

7) This is wrong too, lying about your sexuality is stupid