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Next semester I am studying with a certain girl in whom I am interested. How could I use this opportunity to get her interested in me?

well my only advice is don't go into this with any expectations because some times a study buddy only stays that, some girls get a little freaked out by more then a little attention, try just being friends, who knows you may luck out and become more then a study buddy

Like Friskeygirl says, don't go over the top, as this would probably have an adverse effect.
Start with the basics, and I apologise if it's too basic. Brush your teeth, have a shower, clean clothes. That will make you pleasant to be physically with.

Where people tend to slip up is to have overly groomed/flattened hair, smelly soaps/deodorants, so they show up looked very obviously too polished and smelling overwhelmingly of something, which screams "I'm trying too hard" and now the over application of deodorant is killing the girl's nose.

Be relaxed and courteous, smile.

I had a guy at work try to impress me by wearing a can of axe body spray and roach killer, he got my attention, my non stop sneezing

The hardest part for guys is usually the ice breaker (or opener). With the study portion taking care of that, you have the opportunity to listen to her problems and find out what she likes/dislikes.

But spending too much in casual conversation when you're supposed to be studying is detrimental on many fronts.

So use it as an opportunity to ask her out to a social setting (e.g bite to eat, movie, just for a walk to clear the head).

But keep the study & socializing seperate. If you're a good study partner, then you'll have more leeway for mistakes.

Just be yourself and attempt to keep things as professional as possible.

My question is, how well do you know this person? If you do not know her well, especially if you don't know if she is interested in and/or dating someone else, chances are that you may be a little devastated if you find out the truth about her. So try to go into this with as few expectations as possible.

Don't try anything, just study and forget about her. Because you're just going to end up getting your feelings hurt. Unless she says she's interested in u, just forget it.

superboyian tips how to get a girl interested.

1. Just be yourself and be normal
2. Start to get to know the girl
3. Good idea to just start off as friends, it's quicker too
4. Compliment her (but not too much)
5. Tell her about yourself don't forget
6. Start talking to each other, you never know, you both could have alot in common

Hope that's helped and good luck


Superboyian.

Exactly what superboyian said...But don't think about it. And yes be yourself. Don't worry if u are doing something too much, such as complimenting. There are two girls that I talk to, one that I like and I comment on her feet a lot, and she thinks its weird, and the other one is not bad looking but i don't like her, but it is obvious that she likes me because she always wants to talk to me and sit by me. And I also complement the other girl on her feet.
So just imagine if I liked the other girl? I would have a girl. And the girl that I like turns out to have a bf anyways.
So being yourself is the best. It's not what you say, but who's saying it.

A jock can call a girl a b***h and she will hate it, and a nerd can call her a b***h and she may just laugh and give him a hug, because she likes him.
Don't worry so much about what you're saying, just talk. Odds are she wont like u, so just prepare yourself for that.

Chiming in -- I've had it go both ways. I've had plenty of female study partners who nothing ever happened with, and there was no chance, and then I've had female study partners where it was fairly obvious from the start that this was just an excuse for us to meet and hang out, and those girls eventually became girlfriends.

There were a lot more of the former than the latter, so set your expectations accordingly.

How did this study partnership get set up? Did she ask you, or did you ask her? If she asked you, what was the vibe you got? Did she seem about business or did she seem like she wanted to hang out more?

If it seems at all like she's not that interested yet, or that this is just about business, set your expectations accordingly and don't get your hopes up. This way, if something does happen, it's all gravy, but if nothing happens, you won't be that disappointed.

One key thing to remember -- don't let this girl liking you make or break your day/month. Have other pokers in the fire, other study partners, other women you are interested in. Don't put all your eggs in this basket, and don't try too hard when you are hanging out. Let things go naturally, and don't try to steer it or force/push through anything unless you are getting extremely good signs.

Real life examples from my life:

I had 2 college classes (eventually 3) with a very hot blonde woman who didn't seem interested at all in me. Suddenly, after I get an A on a hard test, she's interested in studying with me. See where this is going? I'm just getting used, and that's what happened -- it pretty much was me being at her beck and call to study, being so into her, yet for her, it was just her getting her studying done, using a smarter guy (as she probably used many guys in her life) to get what she wanted. The warning signs -- no apparent interest until I did well academically, which is where she was lacking. Sad to say, in that situation, your prowess will not get you a GF, but if you let them, pretty women will waste your time studying in groups so that they can use your knowledge. You will not get anything out of them other than a very flimsy colleague relationship.

I had a class with a woman who I never noticed until she said "Bless you" when I sneezed one day. Suddenly she was on my radar -- something seemed just a little too interested about her responding to my sneeze (she sat a bit far away, and no one else in the very shy, mostly Asian class had spoken to me up to that point). I noticed we both walked home to the dorms the same way, so one day that same week I intro'd myself and probed to see if she was friendly or interested at all. Lucky me, she was single (though I was not, but that's another story) and interested -- by the end of our second walk together, we exchanged numbers to "study," though we had not had any tests yet in class (the first one was coming), and nothing to show that I was any smarter than her. I knew the number exchange was just an excuse to get together (she called me several times just to talk before we even had our study meeting), and in fact we barely studied at all when we met. By the end of the night I was massaging her and kissing her. The difference here -- mutual attraction, not paying attention to business (and neither of us wanting to) when we met, and no signs that I was going to be used for my academic prowess.

So -- study sessions that are really dates in disguise are fine, but if this is your hope, make sure it's the right person you are betting on.