She Loves! But Does She "LOVE" Me?

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As the title says im a bit confused :S and really just wanted to ask a question and to ask for your advice and/or reassurance ( or damnation xD )

Well heres the story and i really think she does love me but heres the thing apart from telling me on msn that she loves me a lot but when we see each other....well how does dating go i mean im 15 in highschool?? i mean ive been going out with her for erm 3 and a half years now and i know i love her ( 15 and loving already real? i cant tell all i can say is it very annoying!! cuz i always think of her :S and sometimes wonder if she does the same about me or am i just another freind thats a bit closer to her?? of course she says she loves me on msn and the rare!! ! time in person thats it really and as far as hugging and all that other bullsh*t goes we dont do that? but maybe thats how a realeationship works?

.....Look people im just a confused person who is just wondering if there is anyway to tell if my GF loves me in the same way as i love her? i mean i have a problem she never really trys to hug me or anything but maybe thats me just missing the signals i cant tell!! i cant tell!! there is no way to tell!! erm yeah like i said before any help

Ask if she will be your girlfriend.
That should answer that.

Don't take the L word seriously. Especially from teenage girls. They say that to everyone who is their friend.

Sounds like friendship and nothing more. Putting myself in her place, it really feels like I wouldn't be able to tell you're interested "like that". And saying "I love you" these days, especially for the younger people out there, generally doesn't have a lot of strength behind it.

If you feel that way about her and it is really bothering you, let her know that you feel more strongly toward her and wondered if she wouldn't mind taking it up a knotch. That's about the only way you're going to start anything if nonverbal communication is a problem for you. If I were in her position, that approach wouldn't make or break anything, I would just tell you how I felt, or what I was willing to do.

Enjoy your youth and your friendship. Worry about love and what is love later.

Ditto. You're young and both yours and her tastes will change. Feel confident that you don't know what love is at your age and she doesn't either. The teen years are for experimenting and trying on different roles.

It's simply playing house. You don't commit, you get to see what works for you.

In the titile its supposed to say "she loves me bot does she LOVE me? sorry i missed out the first me in the title

Anyway this is frustrating and i dont want to leave her but nothing will change if i do cuz were pretty much freinds just calling each other BF and GF but i wanna stay cuz she says she loves me and i ask her about it and she loves me enough to want to keep me as her BF ( i have left her twice before both times she kept asking me to take her back and i did) everytime we get back together though its the same thing we just go back to being freinds But BF and GF im actually confused do you kiss your her if she is your GF? cuz ive been out with her for 5 months now ( since i last took her back) and i only kissed her twice! she says she doent care if i do or dont but i say to her "do you mind if i do?" and she says i dont mind? so is that a yes or no?? cuz im confused and i think its time to end this even though i want to stay with her badly

That's true for most teenage girls, yes, so it dosen't necessarily mean she actually loves you.

However, I don't agree with the people saying that just because of your age you can't be in love. That's not true at all.

Last edited by Asp-Z on 07 Jan 2010, 9:35 am, edited 1 time in total.

Well, I'm 31, found out I had AS 3 years ago.

I had a girl best friend I met around 2000-2001, we went trough great times and the worst times together (with things going on in both our lives, including me feeling and being misunderstood everywhere).
She always made it clear she loved me, even when she was in a relationship with someone and he would tell her to loose me, she would fight against it and keep me around.

During one of her relationships, her boyfriend was really abusive and after some months, I couldn't handle it anymore, he was hurting her, both mentally and physically and nothing I said or did could help her or make her see it.

So we lost contact in a cataclysmic way.

She recontacted me a few times for casual chats, talking about old times, but then went poof again regularly.

Then, last year, she told me she never wanted to hear from me again, when i tried to tell her about the Aspergers. I hadn't heard from her in 2 years anyway, but kept sending her holiday and birthday greetings.

Now, in september, we did reconnect, that story you can partially find here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt115948.html

Anyway, she still loves me and cares about me, thats clear, she also knows I always have and still do, love her very much.

But again, just this weekend, she got another boyfriend all of the sudden.

Goes to show how big the difference is between loving someone and wanting a relationship with them by falling in love.

I hope I didn't screw up and that we can keep rebuilding our relationship.

If she keeps getting new boyfreinds then how does that show that she wants you? So are you saying you still hung around her even when you broke up? cuz thats what i did and my releationship isnt good and im planning to end it soon but even after i might still be freinds and hung round with her less often though to put it frankly our realeationship is pretty much were freinds but we call each other BF and GF its sad cuz i want to do more like hug her but so far its just not working out

We didn't break up, we were never together.