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werkinit
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05 Jan 2010, 3:43 am

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05 Jan 2010, 4:43 am

Redirect this toward making her a template of a girl you're looking for, instead of being THE actual girl you're looking for. Once you make this clear to yourself and draw the line, you'll stop feeling guilty.



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05 Jan 2010, 9:36 pm

monsterland wrote:
Redirect this toward making her a template of a girl you're looking for, instead of being THE actual girl you're looking for. Once you make this clear to yourself and draw the line, you'll stop feeling guilty.


Absolutely! There are traits the OP finds desireable, and unfortunately she's already taken. The best thing which can be done is to understand why you like her, use that motivation to make yourself better and,

a) heaven forbid, she becomes available...
b) you find a suitable replacement...

you're prepared.



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05 Jan 2010, 9:52 pm

werkinit wrote:
I am infatuated with my cousin's wife. I wouldn't say I'm in love with her or even that I lust for her. But there's something about her I find extremely attractive. I am kinda jealous/envious of their relationship. But I really love her kinda like a sister and she has always been good to me. I feel kinda bad for feeling the envy towards them that I do. I would love to find a girl like her for myself


Maybe because she is pretty or something, her personality is probably so sweet but she is taken, but you technically have no other choice but to move on and find another girlfriend, sorry to break the news... Yes unfortunelately that is very difficult, I've been in that road so many times, I eventually got someone who actually loves me for who i'am and is been really sweet and that took a long time but then she was my best friend before.


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05 Jan 2010, 10:37 pm

werkinit wrote:
I am infatuated with my cousin's wife. I wouldn't say I'm in love with her or even that I lust for her. But there's something about her I find extremely attractive. I am kinda jealous/envious of their relationship. But I really love her kinda like a sister and she has always been good to me. I feel kinda bad for feeling the envy towards them that I do. I would love to find a girl like her for myself


Just do some other things that will make you stop thinking of the cousin's wife. Like watching football or doing household chores...

If you need some sex stimulation, I also suggest you drawing your dream girl and think of it all the time.


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