I define short-term relationships as anything that doesn't last forever. Or to be more fair, something that doesn't last years, just months or weeks or days.
In a non-romance related topic, I spilt ways with the drummer in my band because it was clear that he was on one page and the rest of us were on another page. He wanted to just put a bunch of songs together and get a gig as soon as possible regardless of quality of music. He also basically wanted his friend in the band who was a beginner to use him for his rehearsal space.
I took the high road and just said "We're on different pages. We should just do our own thing." Instead of just saying "I agree" he decided to say "Well I already have what I need for musicians, the rest of you are running around in circles, I don't know what you're doing." So I said good luck to him genuinely, he said "good luck to you" sarcastically and hung up. And this is a 50 year old.
These kind of social differences make me feel uncomfortable beyond belief. The fact that Monday, we were jamming and everyone was getting along, now we'll never talk to each other again, and he leaves on a sour note.
Failed short-term relationships, in other words, of any kind, romantic or otherwise, while they happen all the time, I can't think of anything more awkward in the world.
And I guess this is part of the reason I don't re-enter the dating scene. While I have more social skills, self-image and ability to blend in with NTs than some of the people here seem to have, I'm extremely sensitive to things not working out.
08 Jan 2010, 1:55 am
