Do Aspie relationships work well?

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Greshym_Shorkan
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14 Jan 2010, 3:35 pm

I've never dated an aspie chick, so I wouldn't know. Tell me, what has ya'll experience been with that kind of thing?



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14 Jan 2010, 3:46 pm

are you asking NT/aspie or aspie/aspie relationships?



14 Jan 2010, 3:58 pm

My ex was aspie and he was very stupid. Ignorant, judgmental, very negative, he wouldn't listen when I correct him. All I did was try and educate him. He also acted like I was ret*d because I liked kid stuff and watched kid shows. He even though I was at that age level and he wouldn't listen when I tell him I like that stuff, not because it's at my age level. I even had a few horror movies and some family movies, drama and he seemed to find excuses like "That's your obsession."


So this AS/AS relationship........failed.



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14 Jan 2010, 4:22 pm

me and my boyfriend have AS, its hard as we are both bad at communicating but good as we both understand each others struggles.

weve bought some books on communication to help so hopefully that will make things better.

I wouldnt date an NT man as I would find him too emotionally needy and clingy, but an aloof intelectual who was almost AS might do.



14 Jan 2010, 4:32 pm

lotusblossom wrote:
me and my boyfriend have AS, its hard as we are both bad at communicating but good as we both understand each others struggles.

weve bought some books on communication to help so hopefully that will make things better.

I wouldnt date an NT man as I would find him too emotionally needy and clingy, but an aloof intelectual who was almost AS might do.



My ex aspie was needy and wanted me on him all the time and be with him all the time. That's what he acted like anyway. He acted very NT because of what he expected in relationships like any other person would expect.

I guess you two are back together.



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14 Jan 2010, 5:03 pm

My husband says he "has aspie traits". I agree. We've been together over 6 years, and our relationship keeps getting better, as we learn both more about ourselves and each other, and more about how to navigate a relationship.

I'm 46, and this is by far the best relationship I've ever had. So I would say that somebody who at least has AS traits is easier to have a relationship with than an NT.



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14 Jan 2010, 5:33 pm

Hmm... well, I need somebody that understands my need to be alone at least once a day. A NT might find that bizarre. But who knows, there's a world of people.



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14 Jan 2010, 5:58 pm

I doubt there any Aspie females in my area, but if there were any, and they were close to my age, shared similar interests, etc., I'd happily date them. I've only dated two different people, both NTs.



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14 Jan 2010, 6:30 pm

I have been in a relationship with an Aspie. I wouldn't have it any other way.


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14 Jan 2010, 6:47 pm

MsTriste wrote:
My husband says he "has aspie traits". I agree. We've been together over 6 years, and our relationship keeps getting better, as we learn both more about ourselves and each other, and more about how to navigate a relationship.

I'm 46, and this is by far the best relationship I've ever had. So I would say that somebody who at least has AS traits is easier to have a relationship with than an NT.



My husband has a lot of aspie traits. So much he think he could be a borspie it scares him.



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14 Jan 2010, 6:53 pm

What's a borspie?


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14 Jan 2010, 7:15 pm

my sister and girlfriend are aspies

i love 'em both



14 Jan 2010, 7:35 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
What's a borspie?



That's what we're both are. A borderline aspie.



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14 Jan 2010, 7:36 pm

Ah, ok.

I am probably a borspie as well.


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14 Jan 2010, 8:01 pm

Last year while i was teaching a dance class one sunday, a beautiful young girl wultzed into my life, Her name is Ashley, we got talking i quickly learned she had some problems socializing with younger people, but because of my profession being a dance teacher Ashley, become very comfortable in my work envorment being sarrounded by older people.

With in a month we started dating, and after a few weeks into our relationship we was talking and she told me she had Aspergers but she was only diganosed with Aspergers for little under a year.

I quickly understood that we needed to take our relationship steady and slowly introducing new activitys and places, together we have great fun she has changed my life in the same way i have changed hers and together i do truely believe we're the perfect couple and we truely compliment eachother.

Over all i do have the pacients of a saint which has been vital in our relationship functioning but in all honesty i can not live with out Ashley, She is my best friend, the love of my life and one day the mother of our children.

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14 Jan 2010, 8:02 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
Ah, ok.

I am probably a borspie as well.



You used to claim to be borderline AS/NT. Changed your mind?