Are aspie guys capable of initiating hand holding?

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Are aspie guys capable of initiating hand holding or kiss?

or is it 99% impossible?

Would you be able to do it or not??

It feels 100% impossible for me to try and kiss my GF and its been upsetting me but yeah i do struggle with trying to make a move on her

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My ex boyfriend who was aspie and very shy and nervous managed to kiss me (with tongue lol) within 5 minutes of our first date! We sat down for coffee in a cafe and he just leaned across and started snogging me! It was very nice

We held hands straight away too as it was good for aspie clumsiness to stop us banging into each other and tripping over ha ha.

Mine is very loving and physically affectionate. I'd say moreso than I am. And he reached over on our first date and stroked my arm, I thought I was going to pass out from excitement. He also kissed me on the first date and he initiated it.

Yes, I can. Doesn't mean I always think to, or do so if there is confusion or uncertainty on my side.


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I must be just plain bad at releationships then everyone seems to get this i cant i stress to much over it and i hate it!

I guess the obvious answer had been thrown at me time and time again " just do it and then it will be easier after the first time " this must be true becuse everyone seems to have had personal exsperience why i cant do it i dont know im too scared and dont really deserve to keep her if i cant kiss her.

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Capable? Sure. But is it likely? That has a lot to do with the individual concerned. And the individual with whom he is trying to hold hands (or kiss).

I have had trouble in two directions--an inhibition to initiating physical contact, and a tendency to initiating contact in places/times that the other person was not comfortable with.

Fortunately, being gay, my partners have made up for my inhibitions (but what of the lost opportunities where neither of us did?).

I have been in a relationship for almost 19 years now--not much inhibition there, but there is still the occasional circumstance in which my attempts to initiate are not well received. Those are pretty few these days, though. (See! I can be taught!)

Mine did eventually, but by that stage I was already fed up with initiating everything.

You need to make it clear to him that it's okay to do that. I know what goes through my mind if i were in such a situation, and that is "if i try to hold hands with her/hug her/kiss her/initiate any kind of physical contact with her, will she think I'm trying to rape her?"

I always do it if I am attracted to someone, but at the same time, I wonder if she will be creeped out by it at first.

For me it's no problem at all.
I love kissing, hugging, or holding my girlfrinds hand, and mostly i love making seeing her smile.

Thou funny enough is, that thats only for the person i love.
In general i dont like getting to close in contact with someone.
But if it's my girlfriend, no problem.

I tend to initiate first kinda timidly at first but then when I get to know someone its aright.

Quite ironically, for me, it is easier said than done. Although I have never been in a relationship, I have had a few rare, awkward times where close friends have almost tripped over and expected me to, at the very least, catch them or prevent their fall. What do I do? I merely take a few steps back - in which case, if they've tripped over something in my direction, they'll lunge forward to grab onto me - just to keep balance.

This is relevant to the topic because many a time I have thought "Dating? Easy. Just flowers, chocolates and basic physical contact (such as holding hands, hugging and kissing). Getting the date? Hard.". Yet, if I feel awkward just stopping a close friend from falling or letting him support himself on me, would I really be able to do something as simple as holding hands while on a date?